Ask your ‘friend’ who started the rumor to come clean to the girl and take responsibility. At the very least you’ll find out if he’s a friend or not. GL

>She basically had her reputation ruined in school

Because she supposedly *gasp* had sex with a man? OH THE HUMANITY, SAY IT AIN'T SO!

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I miss the old days when a justified ass kicking would have solved this issue in an evening

Move on, if she doesn't believe you then that's her loss.

You should have a conversation withy your friend admitting that he started the rumor and record that. Then send that recording to everyone.

Should've confronted the rumour spreading friend immediately, told the girl what he was doing so she could speak for herself, and also told others that he was lying. She might never believe you now, even if your friend admits it she could think he is covering for you.
You should apologise to her though, and then its up to her.

I'm not going to repeat what other people have said, but what you should do is go and tell her the actual truth. That you knew about the rumor and didn't do enough to stop it and apologize for that.

Hope you take that a a small life lesson, always protect your image and reputation. With out those you will not go far. I am no expert but what people say about you is taken more of a fact than anything because people will avoid conflict and assume. Also people that talk any degree of shit about you or spread rumors definitely are not your friends.

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I was saying he needed an adult due the fact he handled shit like a child. Yeah he may be 19 but he acts like a 12 year old when it comes to conflict and resolution. It was a call out of his behavior and instead he let a A "friend" talk shit about him and the girl he liked. Now if I were in her position I would evaluate at very least his constitution and the way he handles conflict and how he may resolve this. Definitely should be a flag for the girl on how he handles this from here. Knowing he had every chance to get on top of this rumor.

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I think the issue was you didn't tell her about the rumor beforehand. If someone is spreading a rumor of a friend, you warn them

I think you waited and hoped it would go away, which is a bad call. Even if it went away, you should have told her as a friend to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Iono. Maybe that's just me. Also your other "friend" is a jerj

Actively squash the rumor at every opportunity. Give her the space she requested. Let time pass. That's all.

It is called a life lesson and you now know that truth an honour is more valuable than gossip and pride

19 is a teenager who thinks they are adult. This continues until they are like 25yo or something

19 is an adult. What “adult” should they be going to? OP is absolutely old enough to have said something, and instead decided that it was perfectly fine for everyone to be talking about this girl behind her back.

Your advice is hot garbage. If you offend your partner, the right thing to do is apologize.

What you should definitely not do is begin a holier-than-thou rant about how they shouldn’t be bothered by your words and how they are emotionally immature for being such.

It is incredibly difficult to qualify for those kind of things. It's not about how much your parents are contributing but how much it seems like they should. It's ridiculous and a good way to keep poor people poor and uneducated.

Looking back you’re completely right, I was just stupid and naïve to think that nothing would come of it

You should have made every effort to make sure that rumor never made it far, thus discrediting him or going to an adult.

'friend'

alrighty, i didnt even post my name and real age, im in the clear for the most part.

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Wow, thank you for pointing out what I already know with that very constructive criticism

You’re an idiot.