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The kind of idiot that then posts about it on r/tifu.

What kind of idiot kicks a sink drainage pipe?!

It's the discipline you learnt, good person, that will see you through in life. I cannot begin to relate to the overwhelming emotions you're perhaps feeling right now. But know that how you behave during these times, and what you do next, whether you report to the authorities, or channel your lessons even harder, what's important is you'll look back one day and consider this a valuable lesson, rather than a significant loss.

Godspeed. You do not need luck when you've got the will.

Nobody wants to think that about their parents, especially if most of the time everything else was fine. Chances are they didn't know any better. But we as a society do know better now. There are far better parenting techniques that never involve hitting/striking/spanking children.

Had something similar happen to me at school once.

Class had just started and I felt an intense pain from my belly. I ran up to the teacher (he was still setting stuff up for the class) and asked to go to the bathroom. He let me go and I went almost sprinting to the nearest toilet.

As soon as I entered one of the stalls and pulled my pants down, it started. Imagine, if you will, a hose spraying water on the wall.

I even overheard a couple of boys that entered the bathroom and immediately left after saying “ewww the bathroom is so stinky today!”

Finished my business and spent a good amount of time cleaning everything up with the TP available.

First of all i can sympathize with you OP, because I have ADHD and generally find myself speaking before I think. just the other day i made a joke to my friend that came out the wrong way and i felt really shitty about it.

It sounds like you struck a soft spot, and perhaps your friend was already dealing with some internal emotional stuff at the moment. If you guys are good friends already, trust that one comment is not going to change that. Everyone slips up every now and then. Sounds like you had no malicious intent whatsoever.

Give him space for a few days and reach out to him to clear things up. In the meantime, do something to help yourself calm down. Don’t beat yourself up over something that already happened.

Okay, I agree with everything you are saying here. OPs parents are abusive not only emotionally but also physically. I kinda realized that I've been being biased because I didn't want to admit that my parents may have been abusive.

Lmfao

No debate here. But I will raise the point that shell pasta reigns supreme.

Yeah maybe, and honestly it is a rude way to respond. Should always think before speaking, generally.

I don’t know for fact what was said, nor the specific context of their relationship and their conversation, but if your family has problems, maybe don’t bring up problems in someone else’s family.

That’s all. It’s a general statement.

Yeah, it sounds like the first comment was teasing/lighthearted and then OP went straight for the jugular.

Remind him of that? OP isn't in the right. I'd argue that making light of someone's shitty family situation is a lot worse than someone talking shit about someone's comparatively better family situation.

Apologies don't come with "well you started it!"

“Everyone at university will know I’m doing the nasty! Oh no! Life ruined!” Comments definitely written by a child lol

Mac n cheese always brings out the fierce, I like the traditional elbow macaroni and four cheese with breadcrumbs on top, who wants to debate?

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It’s been a while since I applied for financial aid, but I think any financial aid (except maybe a private loan, which you should NOT use) requires a FAFSA.

I get that. But a respectful "hey, I'm still kicking myself and have deep regrets. Hope you can forgive me at some point" is low pressure and opens the door for him to respond if he wants.

When I was like 14 I had phone sex on my home landline phone and my mom picked up another found in the house to make a call and she heard everything. It was awful

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I love a good email or note - because it's not something you thought out to cut him down. He said something as part of a silly game you were both playing, and you said something defensive back. It's probably not a good type game (for anyone) to play with him, talking about families when that's a shitty area of his life. Everyone gets defensive about family. But it's going to go wrong for him pretty frequently unless the other person is willing to to have their family slagged and not say anything.

That’s a good outlook, but to clarify my feelings about it, he did mention your family first, that’s on him, unless what he said was vanilla by comparison you shouldn’t feel too badly about what you said.

Ya you are right, i wouldn't wanna go through what he is going through, if someone said something like that to me I would want space from them, I wanna and need to grow and better myself alot

True I'll try I just don't wanna push to hard if he truly wants me to stop talking with him thx