Yeah, nah, fuck that shit. She's just manipulating him now but he's letting her. Had an ex just like this and will never put up with that again.

Was it? It’s kinda the literal truth lmao

Dude you’re not an idiot, you said/ responded how any normal guy would. It’s all about presentation and tone of voice with these women. You can’t win most of the time, but it’s important to never be spiteful and vindictive. It’s not as if your intention was to hurt her, but to try and get her to see it from your point of view and for her to realize you’re dedicated to her. If she has insecurities of her own, all you can do is support that. It’s not like your gaslighting her or being manipulative. You literally just brought up the fact that she’s being a little hypocritical. You can’t control her reaction, only your presentation.

This seems like a bad case of the double standards. It was a little brutal but a good wake up call.

In your opinion. Everyone has different values/belief systems.

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you're not an idiot, you got gaslight like a champ.

Yeah I feel that. My friends ride hard for me when any ex especially this last one did something just like this. I have friends coming from whole different area codes who are enfuriated with his behavior and how its taring my mom and I apart. Hospitals..cops. He’s horrendous

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Don't feel bad. You know what's actually insecure? To think you crossed a line. It would have been inappropriate if you said it out of the blue but if she got a problem with a genuine friendship while she is in touch with her past flings or exes, it's just hypocritical. Set the boundaries right. The wording was inappropriate probably but the sentiment was on point.

>She consistently feels bad/ashamed for her sexual past as she sees me asthe love of her life and wishes she hadn’t done anything with anybodyuntil she met me

What? What the heck is so shameful about having previous partners? That's incredibly unhealthy thinking. It's like she thinks she's used merchandise and regrets you couldn't have her while she was still new in box.

That's not what I said. What I said is a woman's value doesn't diminish based on the number of partners she's had. That's ingrained misogyny speaking.

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I have significantly more experience than my partner, and am friend with a couple of ex flings/ partners. But I’m not over here crying about when my partner talks about an ex or someone he used to have a crush on, because it’s hypocritical of me, do I get a little jealous? Yes, but I know he also does too. You didn’t fuck up, she’s being a child about it.

Incorrect. Insecurities or not SHE stated the conversation. SHE made hypocritical comments about his friendship and absolutely should have been called on it. Letting this kind of thing slide only sets you up for emotional manipulation.

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If you’re truly the love of her life, she will understand where you’re coming from and figure it out. Was that brutal, meh….maybe a little. However, sometimes we have to face those things a little brutally to determine if they are really that big of a deal. Her past and your past are in the past. That’s all there is to it.

Hey bro just get out now. This is like literally the beginning of a long, terrible relationship i had.

She wants you to only talk to her, while she can basically do whatever she wants and will never stop trying to expand the boundaries the longer yall are together. Until one day she cheats, n then you put your foot down...but then you're gonna be "controlling"

Yeah, get out bro seriously. Take this as your future self trying to warn you man, because it's gonna be a long shit road of her doing this exact scenario, but pushing the limits each time

All it will take is for you to "be too nice" to a girl she thinks is attractive, n she'll use that as an excuse to full on cheat. Then make you feel like it's your fault

Yeah bro, get out

The age is trademarked. Everyone else at that age now must use "22 years & (0 to 11) months" or pay a licensing fee.

r/femaledatingstrategy is that way

Just no, some might say a lil harsh, but she's chastising you for something she is doing worse to the nth degree, my advice, sounds manipulating and controlling at worse, at best she needs a therapist to get over her jealousy.

Don't let her hypocrisy change the way you live your life, king.

Dude, you didn't fuck up. This chick is crazy for being so controlling.

Yeah but she was getting smashed day after day after day by these others dudes . Long term relationships. Sex smash on the daily like 2-3 times even . Like nothing . my man !! Especially at that age .

Eh the vicious wording was a fuckup lol

If you like women with high body counts then that’s your thing lol. Not everyone’s cup of tea