Was this the update???

The only way you messed up is by keeping that job.

Is this in the Philippines?

This gives me hope for the future, as a guy who couldn't value sex any less lol

Hopefully this kind of thing becomes more popular

I indeed missed that and am sorry about what my answer implied.

Sorry OP. Rest of my answer still stands, it was not ur fault.

I believe the commenter is trying to point out the misogynistic undertones of referring to a woman’s past partner in that way. It’s a vulgar and disrespectful way to refer to her sexual past.

https://www.unddit.com/r/tifu/comments/xwg90n/tifu_by_saying_multiple_dudes_have_been_with_my/

Sounds like growing pains. I hope you both learn from this and let it go. It's common for women to have a higher body count.

This feels like a Walgreens story.

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Was he blocked or something?

Just some thoughts from a random internet person: Everyone's got a past, best to work on evaluating people for who and what they are today.

But sometimes people can't get past your past. That is 100% THEIR problem, and in this situation, her issue seems batty potatoes to me.

Based on the story you tell here, quite frankly I see this whole exchange as a warning to you about her. If you don't address this and you both work on getting ok with acknowledging/accepting your pasts, you are never going to be able to build a future. You will never have a new female friend again, either, and you'll miss out on a lot of joy in life.

Heck, I'm looking at a group photo of our friends from a few years ago at a party, and there are three women I've slept with in it, one woman and two men that my wife slept with. All in the past, before we got together, and we are happy and trusting.

Fuck. I was reading that !

One of these days you'll both realize that your sexual past is just part of your past, and isn't a big deal, regardless of how experienced or in-experienced you are.

She shouldn't be ashamed of her sexual past, and you shouldn't be threatened by her sexual past.

You also shouldn't be ashamed or insecure about your lack of a sexual past either.

I, for one, am glad that my wife had a sexual past before me. It allowed her to figure out what she liked and didn't like, and while we've learned a lot about what works for us over the past 15 years of marriage, it was great coming into it with a base level of experience and understanding both of our own bodies, desires and preferences.

Good luck to you both, I hope you can get past your insecurities so you can get back to enjoying each others company.

W

Why are we all saying this isn't her fault? Management is obviously kind of bad, but it seems like they were understanding of the situation anyways. But OP should have made sure someone got the message that she wasn't going to be there, and if nobody could cover the shift it was still OP's responsibility to show up with menstrual cramps.

Obviously her coworkers declining to go in and cover for her makes them assholes too, but they didn't necessarily do something irresponsible in this situation.

The fact that OP is 17 gives her lots of leeway too, and definitely makes it the managers responsibility to make sure everybody understands everything, but that doesn't mean everyone should be teaching teenagers bad work ethic by saying it isn't her own fault.

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Yea it was a stupid way of saying it but the core message still makes sense. Why is she still friends with exes, and complaining about you being friends with someone you didn't even date but just had a crush on?

She sounds immature and looking for drama.

BTW, past sexual history is just a contribution to the kind of person she is now. If you love her now, then her past is what shaped her into the person she is now.

Plus it’s not even an ex. It was a childhood crush/friend but they never were in a relationship

bruh you and your childhood friend dont even have "history" esp if you didnt fuck or seriously discuss going to a relationship.... feelings as kids dont matter. can't believe women that be doin this shit. your comeback was legit, OP.

Hey, a sexual past is nothing to be ashamed of. She should not feel less of a woman or loyal to you for having had partners before. I hope she is able to understand that eventually.

That said, by insisting your partner doesn't have contacts of their previous partners/crushes, one implies a belief that they will be unable to control themselves if an opportunity to cheat arises. Trusting one's partner extends to believing they will make the right choice if someone offers them the opportunity to cheat. If your girlfriend has trouble doing that, talk with her about what could be causing these trust issues.

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Vicious would be something derogatory. His wording was negligible.

And that ten minutes was all guilt for the guys she currently talks to .

Dude, you didn't fuck up, that kind of jealousy is good to find out now before you become more invested.

From my very limited reddit knowledge she reminds of an ex of mine that looked for ways to cause strife to justify her later actions (read: cheating).