hah that did cross my mind. it would definitely make things more complicated. but I yearn to have a good relationship with her someday. I'm realizing now that there are patterns here that need to be broken if there is going to be any chance of that happening. so I will make a last attempt to include her in my life and will distance myself if that does make things worse.

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Oh no, that sucks! I hate confrontation and making ppl feel bad so i would hate to be in this situation

Be honest with him tell him you are just now exploring and accepting your sexuality. That you don't know if you like him cause he is a friend or romantically. That you don't want to hurt him or your friendship. That you need to slow down and go back to being friends till you figure yourself out.

I think you need to give up trying to make your mom happy. Obviously I can't speak on how she's treated you your whole life but I really think you need some independence from your mother.

You seem to feel anxious about not upsetting her when really it's not your fault that she chooses to react the way she does, and you shouldn't have to feel like you need to lie or alter yourself to avoid her reactions.

I think you should focus on yourself and your life and your relationship and have some time away from your mother. I'm sorry she treats you like that, and I'm sorry your father doesn't stop her.

PS: Jesus loves gay people just as much as He loves straight people.

thank you, I think I needed to hear that

ANd that's why you never, ever, mention anything regarding legal issues at work.
Never.

Also, post again when sober.

well, it's complicated.

Never thought I'd read sink fisting but here we are

I am tip toeing because I'm not one for confrontation. But I'm seeing now that this is a good time to change that

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How about he meets everyone but your mom. She’s the one that makes things difficult and makes you flustered to the point of lying. Or would that make things worse?

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Be direct as possible. Or just screenshot this reddit post and send it to him?

As a guy I would appreciate your honesty. It's way better to tell him that you don't like him rather than lying to him about your feelings. (We guys get excited quickly).
Try to tell him in the friendliest way possible that you made a mistake, and that you see him more as a friend to talk to, and that you want to go slow. Good luck!

Tell him you are not interested in him that way and do it quickly because he is not picking up your signs and it's not fair to either one of you. Don't ghost him or ignore him. You have to address this and address this head on. I wish you well.

As credible a story as the OP

Don't you mean : "Not getting f*cked"?

Sorry, I can't help, but maybe a little humor can brighten your day.

I don't understand why you are tip toeing around it. Just be blunt. Then stop worrying abt what they think. Once you do, not only will you be happier, they will usually start putting in an effort. As far as your piercing, it doesnt matter if they like it or not, or if they approve. Its your body, your choice.

Exactly what I was going to say ^^ Not proud of it but I’ve had plenty of tickets over the years and just about every single one has either been dismissed entirely or a reduced fine with no points. Find yourself a good traffic lawyer and let them handle the rest. Best part is that it’s usually cheaper to pay a lawyer to handle the ticket than it is to actually pay the ticket.

You have difficulty because you think you should explain why you lied. This is the fact: you lied, trying to explain your boyfriend not coming. You are still stuck in old patterns. You want to blame your mom for you telling him not to come (and then not informing her). This is how you tell your mom: “Mom, I lied when I said he wasn’t feeling well. The truth is that I told him not to come.” Don’t give a reason unless she asks. Tell her it was wrong for you not to tell her he was not coming, perhaps that you understand why she was angry, because I think you do, and she explained it to you. I assume you are not living with your parents. (If you are, this is much more complicated). In any case, the only way forward is with the truth and no excuses or “reasons.” — unless asked, and even then be careful. As children, we learned to make excuses. If we had a good excuse, it was okay. But it wasn’t okay, and that never really worked well. Lying makes your life complicated. Keep it simple.

Cleaning the P trap is easy and can help.

I plunged my sink once and ended up just breaking the o-ring on it and got water everywhere just like OP.

there is a saying here in chile, el flojo trabaja doble which roughly translates to the lazy work twice!