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If the hand cpr thing broke your sink, your sink was in bad shape

Why is everyone on earth getting a nose piercing. It's not attractive and now everyone has one, so you aren't even unique.

And you’re 26?

I don't understand why "you won't dare anyways" is bugging me so much despite it being equivalent, to "you wouldn't dare anyways".

Some day youll look back on this "issue" and realize how easy you had it. Dont dwell on it and just tell him how you really feel.

You have so say what you think. Be honest is the best way here. You should lie only if someone is down and you want that ppl to feel better.

Your parents sound pathetic. Are you from India or some other Asian country xD Parents religious?

Depends on if having a clean driving record is a requirement of the job. A lot of jobs that involve travel or delivery do. Sounds like driving was a key requirement for this job and because it was developing autonomous vehicles, they generally do expect perfect driving records.

As correct as you are, a locked box in a bank is still a vastly safer spot than being unsecured in an unlocked garage that impulsive broke family know about and have access to.

Just be up front that you see this person as a friend and not a date. Be kind and offer to hang out as just friends if you want to. Hang in there and use this as a lesson learned.

thank you. I think you are right. She has treated me this way all of my life. I have a lot of compassion for her for the life she has had and her relationship with her own mother, but she has a lot of healing to do and I don't want to suffer at that expense anymore.. I have a solid and loving relationship with every single other member of my family and she only really treats me this way. she's harsh with my father and younger brother too but they seem to just be accepting of it and to brush it off with far less emotional distress. though I've tried to tell them how she makes me feel, I don't think they fully understand how much her actions affect my mental health and apparently my life decisions. I can't say I blame my father. He has been there for me in literally everything else in life, so if this is the one thing he wants to stay out of I feel like I can give him that. thank you

I'm sorry you're dealing with this situation, and how you got here is perfectly natural. I absolutely understand conflict avoidance. That said, I think you need to have a serious talk with your parents about how they treat you. You aren't a teenager, or some early 20s airhead who thinks they know everything. You are an adult, in every sense of the word, and if they can't respect you or trust you enough to live your life as you like, then they need to keep that to themselves, and not take it out on you, because at this point, that is a THEM problem, not a you problem. They are the ones who need to grow up and treat you with a modicum of respect just like they would any other adult. I hate conflict as much as anyone, but it doesn't sound like your parents, especially your mother, are going to budge on being this childish, so it's up to you to confront them.

You deserve respect, and even if they disagree with your decisions, that's OK. But they have no right to take their issues out on you. You deserve better.

They said it was for lizards though

I know. that was my biggest mistake and my biggest priority to fix right now. I love him deeply and he has only ever shown me love and respect. I hope to have him in my life for as long as possible, even if that means cutting ties with a family member whose shown me the opposite of that.

You're hurting your bf at expense of your mother.

Had to google NEET. Never heard of it before.

Harsh truths are indeed still truths. Growing up around drug using extended family, we knew we needed to hide valuables.

I agree. Jesus loves us all.

That ain’t a friend my guy

Shut up🥰

1. You need space to sort it out. Give yourself permission for that, which it sounds like you have.
2. His approach is one most people want because it's put into the society that "people who ask or pursue succeed"
3. It didn't work for you in this case
4. Don't be scared to hurt the feelings of a person who is your friend. Rather rely upon their friendship to absorb the need you have for space and time.
5. This person made a mistake by not seeing that maybe you weren't ready yet. For them, perhaps the fact that THEY could talk about this with YOU means "I'm solid and ready to go" but that's not the case for you. I would have wanted them to ask how solid you were or how confused you are before posting up with such an emotional ask right away.
6. If it helps, take a look at Betty Martin's Wheel Of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/

So you can see and understand or show someone what is up with you in terms of being ready. The part about Giving and Receiving, as well as the general graphic, are really helpful to understand how to envision and then talk about consent, which goes quite beyond just touching and intimacy.

What's plumbing?

Those are absolute trash, they split at the seam when used. We bought a bunch for the maintenance shop (residential maintenance) and every one of them broke during use. Honestly for a sink a classic rubber plunger with a wooden handle is perfect, cut the handle if you need it shorter.

People who get there silver stolen from them.