I did nearly this same thing at 17 when I worked part time at a retail clothing store. If you're not in a life or death profession, it will all be okay and everyone will live even if there is an inconvenience. Take this as a learning experience of how you can avoid a similar situation in the future. Also keep in mind that people older than you aren't always right or know better, even if they are your manager or your parent.

Yes, I understand and if she's aware that happens every month, I at least, would have been willing to make arrangements. My only point was that 5 hours, without even direct contact will not be enough time to find a replacement, especially if she hasn't talked to the manager directly. I do agree that the manager not providing employees with direct contact means is a big part of the issue. I always made sure everyone had my number and I was like call anytime for any kind of an emergency.

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I'm sorry OP, your manager is exploiting you because you're young and inexperienced. You did NOT have to show up, you did everything right given the situation. Your mom was also too harsh on you. I'd recommend finding a different job and it's okay to stand your ground.

I would say that the manager failed to train you correctly if you did not know the sick policy existed, that you had the managers number etc.

You know better now, please ask your mom not to call and shout at work for you in future, it really doesn't help you, you end up being known as "that employee whose mom phoned and complained"

the sick policy is great and all, but its a best case scenario, if you were hit by a car on the way to work you can't call in, so now your manager *does* know, she/he should deal with it and cover **themselves** too many managers above covering lower level employees.

Hope you feel better, SAVE the managers phone number.

Oh and don't worry about calling at 3am if that's when you first feel sick, just leave a voicemail and its no longer your problem, you followed protocol.

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Congrats.

I don’t work an easy field. 1 person out can run you pretty late to leave. Still stand by my opinion on the matter.

Yes, because in bird culture, deleting posts is considered a d¡ck move.

Are you aware of the sick policy now? Usually its in the contract you sign when you start working (at least mine was).

Lol. Here’s a tip on becoming an adult. Do everything in your power to stop your mom from calling your supervisor/manager to bitch at them.

Its called being responsible and wearing a mask. When you work in a place that only has 10 coworkers total, you quickly realize that the world doesn't adhere to every minor inconvenience.

At my work we use an app for calculating hours/pay and there are request off options that the GM has notifcations turned on for. Other than that he would not know if I told him anything else through that app, and I wouldnt figure that he would. Without talking to someone I would figure it's on me to make sure someone actually recieves notice. A voicemail/text in the least if they don't answer a second time.. does this business not have a phone number to contact the building itself to just ask for a manager? (Legit question)

After you already spread your illness to everyone else. I appreciate when a coworker doesn’t come in when they’re sick. All that does it lead to someone else getting sick and having to call in. It’s a toxic workplace mentality to not allow yourself to stay home when ill.

Never bend backward for jobs or people that have no care for your well-being. Company’s and managers fail to realize that those demands are what causes their companies to be revolving doors of employees. Nobody wants to feel anxiety that they’ll be harassed over being sick or needing the day off for whatever reason. They’ll try to push you, push back, don’t settle for less than mutual respect. You’ll only be burnt out by trying to function like a robot for jobs that can’t even pay the bills at the end of the month, or for people who wouldn’t bat an eye if you were gravely sick or died, except for the fact that “we’re down an employee”. Also, I’d tell your manager that good policy is making sure when you change policies that employees are at lest verbally told they need to check their emails for policy updates. You know the saying, assuming makes an ass out of you and me.

Your mom sounds as insufferable as your manager

Your mom sounds controlling. She's not the one working there.

Do you have a uterus? Because it sounds like you haven't had bad menstrual cramps before. I have PCOS and sometimes "menstrual cramps" is truly debilitating pain with basically no notice for me thanks to irregular cycles. I've had vomiting from pain, I've passed out from pain, etc. I was definitely not able to work in those conditions. Doctors blew me off for years and just told me it was "normal cramps." Thankfully it's finally diagnosed and I'm able to manage it better than I could as a late teen. But it should 100% be as much of an excuse to miss work as a cold, stomach bug, or other very painful condition.

Real talk about jobs:

-If you are sick, you are sick. Period. (hehe) If there is no one to cover for you, that is your manager's issue to deal with. It does not matter what the reason is. You. Are. Sick. and will not be in.

-The store will not explode if it is not open for a day.

-If you were to keel over and die, they'd immediately find a replacement. Don't bend too far backwards for them. Ever. Unless they pay you double.

This.

This is the real issue. Most people here don't understand how hectic retail management is, but regardless every employee should know how to contact the manager at any time. That's absolutely a big failing.

As a former manager, I do have to say, this is every managers nightmare. With enough notice I can either find someone to cover, or maybe rework the schedule to at least cover some of the shift, but I do need you to make sure I know, and 5 hours is pushing it. Managers are often so busy that checking all the apps several times a day isn't realistic. On the other hand I always made myself available pretty much 24/7. Everyone had my number or knew where it was. I think there's fault on both sides here. And I'm not sure menstrual cramps would count as an excused absence unless you told me ahead of time that it was a recurring problem and you couldn't work that couple of days.

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I’ve always been told that unless you get confirmation that your boss has seen your message or got your call then you continue until they do. Next time if you don’t have your managers work phone the workplace directly and ask to speak to them or get the information to contact them.

That being said if you are 17 you shouldn’t be the one expected to be responsible for delivering training to new employees and no matter your age your boss should be respectful. They can direct you to policy if you haven’t done it correctly but talking down to someone is not the way.

Half the battle is companies are switching everything digital. In my work we have three different apps, email and a company phone to communicate with each other and it is super confusing to keep in contact with each other as you have to check them all and information can be missed.