> Dated a guy for months

> Poured his heart out to his boyfriend

> Made out with him dozens of times

"Straight"

I’m impressed by your mindset about all of this. My two cents would be to try your best to be as kind as possible to both him and the whole jock friend group.

They want to humiliate you and see your pain. Do your best to not give them that satisfaction and you will come out on top.

In the long run he will carry the weight of his actions forever and if you continue to be the excellent and mature person that you are then that shame won’t be a burden for you. Love is always right, and kindness can often be the best response. Plus if you just seem nonchalant about it they will be confused and rightly embarrassed, maybe they might even realize homophobia doesn’t have a place in this world.

Thanks for the update and I hope the best for you

Best bet by far to get the necklace back is by appealing to his mum to convince him to give it back as part of an apology. The legal route is pretty shaky, and also likely to be expensive.

Best of luck to you.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

What these people did to you is really fucked up.

My guess is that he’s gay, he liked you, he is scared he’ll lose all his friends if he comes out so he’s got cold feet and now claims he did it all to humiliate you in an attempt to avoid having to deal with the consequences of coming out to his friends.

I wanna kick that little groups ass for you. That's some fucked up shit. I mean the dude did make out with you and stuff so I mean come on. Dude is probably bi himself and just trying to fit in with the boys. And do mean boys because men would not act like this.

27 y/o gay man here. It doesn’t feel like it’s been 10 years since high school lol but I remember what it feels like to be in that weird place with some people who are ok with it and some really conservative people. I remember what it was like to want to date someone like all my friends were doing but there was only 1 or 2 other people who were out and I wasn’t really interested in them.

People have given some great suggestions, such as going to administration and showing them how they’re bullying you on social media. So long as you’re in school, this isn’t ok and you shouldn’t let them get away with it. They were developing social media policies when I was in school, so I’m sure they’re a lot stricter now.

Overall though, I cannot emphasize enough how little these people will matter after high school. You will make new, adult friends. You will probably date lots of people. Life is going to be so much better beyond high school.

It sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders and a loving heart. It’s gonna be ok, bub. Whatever you do, though, please don’t hold onto Skyler. Take it from me, it’s so easy to get stuck on a guy that is NOT right for you. Life’s too short to waste time like that. Lemme know if you ever need someone to talk to that might understand what it’s like.

OP is 18, if the ex is also 18, she can't do much. Threaten to kick him out of the house maybe, but a loving parent might not be willing to kick their teenage child out over something like this.

It's shitty, but it's a tough decision for a parent to have to make. He really should give the necklace back, but unfortunately sometimes the bad guy wins in real life.

Goodluck man

Good on you for speaking with his mum, no matter the outcome. You’ve done every right thing you possibly can. Bold and brave and better for it, well done!

Started telling his friends he sucked you off

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if you think the story is real i got a bridge to sell you

this is an all round awful situation and i know that you’re hurting, but please don’t feel like you need the necklace back to feel whole again. getting it back would be just, but i know how much i would fixate on something like that and honestly it sounds like it might be a long shot. maybe better to acknowledge to yourself that you’ve done everything right, and to find solace in that.

you’ll be okay. you’re strong. talk to people. if it’s available to you, talk to a school counsellor or a professional psychologist or psychiatrist. it will help you process things. otherwise, focus on the support network you have. your dad sounds like a great guy. teenage breakups suck, especially when it feels like no one understands. but you’ll be okay. it gets better.

Ask him to give it back. If he doesn’t flip it back around. You just have to own this. If you act heartbroken and embarrassed at school they won’t stop. But he’s the allegedly straight guy who dated you for three months. I’d stand up at lunch and read everyone of his letters out loud. If people start saying shit tell them “I’m gay, what’s his excuse?”

Like literally just publicly roast this jackass. Loudly ask when he’s gunna give your necklace back every time you see him. Ask if he’s keeping it because he loves you so much.

Tell everyone at school about your dates. “Hey Skyler remember when we had our first kiss at the fair. You looked adorable.”

“Hey Skyler I really liked the way you ate that corn dog.”

“It’s too bad we didn’t work out Skyler, I really liked your mom.”

“Hey did you guys like our love letters? Skyler said you’d read them to each other every night. No wonder I thought you were really gay!”

“You got me beat guys, you out-gayed me. Didn’t think that was possible! So did you hang my heart shaped necklace by your bed or do you carry it around with you cause you miss me so much.”

Refer to him publicly as your ex boyfriend. Tell everyone how amazing and romantic he was. Talk about how all his friends fantasize about hooking up with a guy because why would a “straight” guy have a boyfriend all summer.

Talk about how after each date they would all get together and gossip about your big gay relationship. Play a super romantic song on your phone at lunch and tell Skyler “Remember when we slow danced to this after our movie night. You’re a really good dancer Skyler. You must have put a lot of practice into dating me. Still have the necklace I gave you? That’s so sweet.”

He’s the idiot for pretending to be gay for three months. I mean who fucking does that. If you own it in school the public opinion will turn against them.

Once they realize their joke didn’t humiliate you like they thought, all their power will be gone. When they see you joking around and telling everyone it will be wayyy more uncomfortable for them. Literally all they have to say is “Haha isn’t it funny that you’re gay.” But you are gay. And they knew that. So what’s the point of the joke? “Let’s see how long we can convince him we’re gay too”!

Once it comes out of their mouths they will realize how stupid they sound. Privately, you know it hurts and it’s fucking horrible, but if you flip it back on them in public and make fun of them back they will deflate like little balloons and it’ll be them switching schools, not you.

EDIT: Also the key to pulling this off is to act completely nonchalant about it. If you make it sound too forced it won’t work. Like it’s funny but you’re mostly just totally bewildered. Like a casual “can you believe this fucking guy, I even let him suck my dick.”

Also watch some comedy videos. I really like Bill Burr. Nobody does righteous anger like him and his rants are fucking legendary. You’ll hate-laugh all the rage right out of you.

His mom sounds like an angel, I'm happy to hear she gave you her support. Idk if confronting him at this point is even relevant, I'd just make sure everyone is aware that this man calling you slurs actually did physical things with you, something that a straight man could never do. I may be horrible, but I would make sure everyone knows about every kiss, every hug, everything sexual that may have happened. I'd even show people pics and texts. I know it sounds terrible, but it would shift the tables in exactly 3 seconds.

Because it is? OP is in high school

Right. And he wants to keep the gift he got from OP. I'd say it all meant something 🤷‍♀️

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He's really not going to be happy that he's been outed in a way, and that seems to be the case. But hay, he did what he did, so having everything brought out into the open is just the natural concequence of his actions. I can't help thinking there's actually been some mixed motives with him. In a way it could have been better to tread gently and give things time to resolve. Now it's all like an episode of heartstopper. Sorry this is your early and somewhat formative experience of love. Many of us have experiences of tentative and unrequited love. Being gay definetly ads another layer of complexity. Time to reset, be proud of how you've conducted yourself and start again. Big hug from all the Boys. You got this.

what’d be the point? he knows where the guy lives, so it would be both pointless and illegal

You're absolutely right that you will almost certainly find true love again and the pain of this will fade.

But right now, it feels terrible. It's going to feel terrible for a while, and you're allowed to feel terrible about it. Don't diminish what you're feeling right now.

Check r/legaladvice. Keep yourself going. It sounds like his mother is going to be a good rock for you now, if you need it. Stay safe, even if it means laying low for a bit. And remember to breathe. Things suck, but at least you found out who he was now, instead of months or years later. And if you need anyone to talk to, you've got plenty of people on here who can lend you an ear or a shoulder.

The other comments have been advising against it though. If he is gay; being outed isn’t exactly the best thing. I still love the guy and everything, I know I should be angry and want him dead, but if he’s gay and is projecting his self hatred onto me; he’ll eventually learn to hate himself instead. The main thing I’m actually mad about is the necklace now.