When you're your age you're overrun with hormones. You're just coming into adulthood, you're just starting to figure out the world. Everything feels desperately important.

People telling you it isn't love are probably a little bit older. They're right, but it's hard for you to understand that now.
We all went through it, people tried to help us. We mostly didn't listen or understand. We all had to learn for ourselves. We all try to help the next generation, they mostly don't listen or don't understand...rinse and repeat.
Anyways, the fella you love doesn't exist, the fella you love was a character played by a skilled actor who also happens to be a shithead in his real life. Yeah, it hurts, bad. It will pass, I promise. I was madly, desperately, eternally, and truly in love with at least two or three different girls in high school. I can hardly remember them, these girls I agonized over.
So...I guess just hang in there, life gets better.
You sound like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders, so come away from this a little wiser. You don't have to be scared of the world, but it's okay to look at things and people with a critical eye. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve and don't spend money like water. People will take advantage.

I've seen both your posts and Im a little worried for your safety here. I'm in the UK and I know some things work a bit different in the USA so please bear that in mind.

Im not gay but I know what it's like to be bullied at school. I also know how easily insults can lead to violence, especially when there's a gang of bullies egging each other on. From what you've said I think this is more likely as this guy is obviously gay or bi and can't deal with it.

If I were you I'd be documenting all this abuse, saving messages and videos were possible. You need to make the school aware of what's going on. The best way would be to go with a parent and see the Principle. If nothing else they can keep an eye out if any trouble from this gang of lads. If the worst does happen they'll then have no excuse but to come down on them like a ton of bricks.

I'd also let his parents know about all this Instagram stuff. If they in any way doubted you then there is a video confession from him.

You've said you've gone looking for legal advice about the necklace. As it was a gift that's probably going to make it hard to get back legally. I think your only hope there is if he caves into pressure from his parents. However what you need to do is cover yourself from any action from him and his gang of mates. I'd find out if any of this is covered by hate speech or harassment laws where you are, I'd also look into restraining orders against them especially if you can find any evidence that any of them have posted something about violence against gays.

Last thing don't dispair. School can be rough. Things get better when you leave. Whether you go to Uni or straight into work it's life is completely different. You can find your tribe and things will get much better for you.

nothing that is important to you now will be as important later, especially relationshsips. go to a therapist and get over this shit, you're so young.

'Love' doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. It's just a noise we make to try to relate to each other's inscrutable emotions. What we call 'love' is affected by our neural configuration, childhood experiences, first relationship, being cheated on, and so forth.

But it is possible that in 20 years you'll look back with the perspective of having been in a 10 year relationship and think that this wasn't real love. Who knows.

Every love is a once-in-a-lifetime love. Your next one will be once-in-a-lifetime, just like this one.

Can you truly call something real love if it doesn’t go both ways? I believed it was real true love, I know everyone doubts it. I know I’m still young, but my feelings were real. His may have been fabricated, but mine were as genuine as my naivety.

kek, I missed the part about them kissing

althought "Disney rom com" was a bit of a giveaway

Still, well played OP, I hope you can trick some of these people into sending you cash to pay for "your legal bills"

That’s the thing about trust and being naive; when the trust is reciprocated, everyone calls you trustworthy, brave, and reliable. But when you trust something or someone genuinely, and you care about them, and love isn’t returned, you get shunned for being naive. Thank you for the kind words. Everyone’s support has been amazing.

No offence, but he doesn’t deserve your courtesy. I’d understand if he gave back the necklace, at that point I’d just ignore him. But the fact he hasn’t is the kicker. Yeah, it’s a dick move to lie to someone like that, but it’s an even bigger dick move to take a gift that was worth a lot to them when you have nothing towards them what so ever.

You need to turn people against him if he’s not going to give the necklace back. Start simple. Ask for it. It’s the least he could do for that he’s done to you. If he refuses? That’s when you hurt his reputation. Let the whole school know just how much of a scumbag he is. If you can, get proof of it. Tell everyone he basically robbed you, as that gift isn’t meant for him anymore.

Don’t let him push you around over this. From the looks of it he has no intention of apologising. In his mind it was a joke.

OP, I know it doesn't feel like this now, but the truth is that you have already won. You've won because you are kind and loving and courageous and wise and mature* and a wonderful decent human being, and all that will last a lifetime, and as you go through life most people will appreciate you hugely for all that. Look at the way the whole internet** is supporting you.

• okay, a bit naive but a) you're 18, you're only a beginner adult, naive is part of that, and b) that naivety was actually trust and decency.

** Or most of it.

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This is my favorite response! I honestly love it so much! I would be scared about retaliation though... But in theory this is like the best response ever!

I’m not from the US so i don’t really know your school system but i have to ask you’re both 18 right? and in High School? at what age does High school end? In my country 18 is the end of school and start work. sorry for off topic comment

I was one of those saying it wasn't love. I'm still saying it now. I KNOW it feels like it, because I had a similar phase with a dude, feeling like he was the fucking one. I was 18. Stupid. No fucking idea what love was, at all, but I thought I'd know it when it hit me. I did. It wasn't with him. He's a distant, pale memory to me now.

Love is shared. I get the feeling you strongly adored him, and he didn't reciprocate. It's not weird we don't believe you were actually in love yet. I've seen a lot of young relationships burn hot and fizzle out even faster. Tack the LGBTQ+ tag and it can go faster still. The number of times I've heard my darling coworker say something like, "I think I've found something really special in him." after a couple of weeks is astounding.

I fell in love with my husband in roughly 3 months. So same sort of time frame. So it's possible, I guess, but...real love...I mean real love...is incredibly rare, especially when you're young...18, 19 is young as fuck. Keep your guard up against your emotions, is all I'm saying. A lot of them might be more fleeting than you think, and you'll only damage yourself more by dwelling on them instead of letting them process and pass.

Unless the other person agrees that was what was said, good luck trying to prove anything.

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This will stay with him for the rest of his life. At some point he will grow up and reflect on the things he did. This will be one of those memories that creeps up on him when he least expects it. He will regret the choices he made and will feel guilty about the way he treated you.

We all grow up someday. Even if it’s those last milliseconds as our life flashes before our eyes.

You on the other hand, you will have grown stronger from this. Your skin is thicker, it’s harder for you to fall so easily. You will have lived and learned and eventually the person you’re truly meant to be with will find you. You will appreciate them that much more. It’ll take time, but you’ll get there. You will build up walls and they will have to break those walls down to get to your heart, which means they truly love you.

Be patient. Be gentle to yourself. You did nothing wrong. Stay strong. You’re almost done with these people and you can cut them out of your life. Life is too short to allow toxic people in and those people are so insecure about themselves and incredibly toxic. They will undoubtedly join Hustlers University because they have something to prove.

May God have mercy on their souls and the government have mercy on their rape victims.

The main issue is these questions come off as agreesive, all that will happen is they will devolve into kid behaviour to under mine the question. So what you need to do is be prepared for that. As the last long person said OWN this shit. Ultimately their powers are humilating u, frustrating u, pushing you. All these are ultimately rooted in you outward expressions not externally to you which means its you who has control.

When they try to belittle by going all kiddy on the questions or shouting back and getting agreesive. Keeping calm is the biggest thing. It shows control, it shows who is in charge.

Questions like “im gat whats his excuse” is a great one, “ yeah ok so a joke usually has a punchline, this seems like 3months of love letters isnt that weird?” “Mate, he kissed me isbt that gay too? ;p” Will also hell control the natrative, remove the humilation. This is all about how you react to them and at its core its in your control

In 20 years, he’ll be sucking dick for coke

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Why can't the mom make him give it back? If any of my kids pulled this shit, you can bet your ass I would make them give it back.
I'm a pretty chill mom who is very understanding about just about anything, but one thing I do NOT tolerate from my kids is bullying.

I'm really sorry for what happened to you, nobody deserves to be treated this way and I hope you are feeling better soon!

Lying rarely ever works out well in court

I'd be the exact same in your situation.

Honestly once your out of school so much changes, you can put all of that crap behind you and live your life freely.

Wishing you the best!

While I personally would do things this way it’s also very unsafe. Especially since there’s a group of guys and only one of OP. Seems like a way to get jumped or injured very badly.