You sound terrible.

Hence the post in TIFU, not TMGRHFU (Today my golden retriever husband fucked up)

>I instructed my husband to clean it using some bleach

…Sorry, to clarify, in what way were you expecting him to clean it? You said to use bleach, and he used bleach? Is this not on you?

YTAH

You can't rely on everything having automatic thermal throttling, but it is pretty normal nowadays. It used to be that CPUs would go pop if you forgot the heatsink.

I don’t understand how this made the laptop misbehave. Did the behavior resolve itself after you fixed the mistake?

This is my first tifu that wasn’t.

You wouldn't have fried the NVMes, they will just throttle down their speeds to hit a safe temperature, also the thermal pads would actually help even with the plastic. Lots of Pcs are running NVMe drives without cooling so you are fine.

Never too late for something like that babes, just let the guy know you aren’t in a good place for a relationship rn cause you’re still figuring yourself out.

I figure historical ad is overthinking it less than OP is.

TLDR

It’s never too late to be a lesbian!

Has it occurred to you that this might not be an issue of sexual orientation and just that you're not attracted to R?

I'm a bit confused, do you know for sure you're a lesbian? or are you just thinking that you're a lesbian? Those are two very different things. If you're still confused on where you leaned to, you should be upfront with the guy, and probably consult a professional first. Sorry, I think it is necessary to be extra cautious and sure here.

Don't overthink it

if you’re a “non-binary” lesbian wint that mean u like other “non-binaries”

I agree. Just say you think you should remain friends. As for thinking you might be a lesbian…You can lose your attraction to one person and it doesn’t mean you’ve lost your attraction to the entire gender. I think this might be specific to R. Or maybe not, but it’s too soon to decide based on one person.

Yeah you should end things before making a bigger butt of yourself. There's no good outcomes for both of you, if you keep it up.

You don't have to tell anybody that you're a lesbian as you don't know for sure yourself. Just explain to the guy that there has been a misunderstanding, you want to be good friends, but no sex or commitment. Keep things simple.

End it now and get it over with, it's only going to get harder for both of you the longer you put it off. And don't beat yourself up over it, you didn't know.

Way better to tell him early, if you keep this going until you find the right time you’ll end up wasting so much time in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

Look, I'm not gonna tell you everything is gonna be fine and not to worry.

But, the hardest part is often the isolation from keeping the secrets, while it might not be easy in the short term, it was never going to get better on it's own.

The first thing is to realise people's initial reactions are filled with emotion, and there will be things said, things done, that are not necessarily meant.

The next thing you should do is try and get some help, everyone already knows now, so steps will likely be taken (I don't know your country so I don't know what mandatory reporting/assistance is in place)

Best thing to do now is take advantage of this situation, talk to everyone you can and get any help you can...

Best of luck to you, its a long road ahead and there will be ups and downs along the way.

You are young and still learning the navigate the world. You didn't fuck up nor are you a fuck up. Give yourself grace love.

Don't ever feel embarrassed for having emotions and don't be afraid to seek help if you need it. As a teenager and even towards being a young adult I had a lot of suicidal thoughts from pressure/not being good enough/anxiety and I felt very alone in this world because I was also scared that people would look at me like I'm crazy.

I really had to learn to give myself grace and I still have to remind myself to this day as full grown adult . I hope that you can seek the help you need to learn how to cope with your anxiety and I hope that you can learn to always forgive yourself.

You got this and everything will be okay <3

This might be a tifu, but it’s a tomorrow I’m going to start getting better. Yes, uncomfortable talks might be coming, but this is the time to get the help you need. I cannot speak on your family, but I only hope that they will love and support you through all of this. Any good parents will not think you’re psycho, but will do everything they can to help you. I wish you the best OP and know that while life may have its lows, the highs are coming. Always remember that a bad day, or a stretch of bad days will eventually come to an end. Be kind to yourself, we’re all rooting for you.

It was probably the best thing you could have done if you are too embarrassed to talk to your parents about it…because now you can get the help you both clearly need and deserve