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RufusCranium t1_iwatrda wrote

A. Look at the blessing in disguise. Now everyone knows and you need not harbor the secret any longer. Of course complications will arise because of it. But at least one thing you can leave behind. B. Not much of an accepting friend if you comforted him (women use this method, too), and put your feelings out there, for him to react in such a manner. Feelings or not, good riddance.

Chin up!

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Plenty_Intention1991 t1_iwas3oe wrote

Wait though... were talking about consensual sex right? I don’t see why that makes OP the bad guy like some people are saying. Based on what you said you didn’t actively sabotage his relationship with the ex and only you know if you did anything predatory but you didn’t say that you did. As a straight man I’ve gotten drunk af with best friends after breaks ups and one thing never led to another. Sure as far as I know my friends aren’t gay but even if they were I wouldn’t end up f-ing them the day after a break up.

Am I missing something?

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kalysti t1_iwapx9m wrote

No one deserves being outed. Period. However, you were incredibly insensitive to interfere with your friend's grieving period. No matter how difficult his ex was, he cared for her and she left him. Being the one left behind is devistating, and your time together should have been all about him and his feelings about his situation.

If you ever find yourself in this situation again, don't have sex with the person, and don't confess your feelings to them. Give them time to work through their own stuff. It's what a true friend would do.

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Dumpythefrog t1_iwaiqmc wrote

This is so scary. Happened to me once but with bleach toilet cleaner. It burned so bad I felt like someone stabbed my eyeball out. Was so terrified I was going to go blind I was crying hysterically and my mom and dad just laughed and said to rinse.

Anyways I’m fine now

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