Tell her it's a scam and call your credit card company to send you a new card with a new number just in case.

Technically it is a scam, but she doesn't need to know all the details.

The real fuck up is that you're insanely weak to peer pressure

you probably wont die alone if u got in a relationship once before. u good

Dispute it with your credit card company.

It's just a common turn of phrase used by Incels. Not sure if you're oblivious to that, or just being defensive in the "not all men" vein of responses.

There isn't anything wrong with "females" as a term inherently, but it is a more clinical term and you find it a lot in really bad pick-up books. The choice of term is meant to dehumanize women (much in the way "girls" can often be used to diminish a woman's standing or accomplishments). It's not necessarily done intentionally, but it plays into a larger trend with the rest of his comment that this guy is pretty down the path to full blown incel.

Bro, you don't know what is love. If you did, you wouldn't have been influenced that much and so many times. No offense but your story tell me that it was nothing but a crush and now you crush on her again because you can't have her anymore. Story is as old as humanity, we all crave what we can't have. The other thing you story says is that you are spineless and you can't stand for yourself. You would rather blame your friends and family along with yourself when the reason they reacted this way was mostly because of YOU. A real partner will communicate his feelings and encourage the reception of your significant other by those around you who count. If you can't tell your family and friends why you choose her and what happiness she brings you, if you can't explain why she is worth getting to know, they will obviously forge their opinion on what they see - which is going to be an awkward situation because a first meeting is always awkward if there's no foreplay to establish relations.

You not only failed to stand for yourself, you also failed her by not making friends and family understand why they should be thoughtful about her.

You should consider that you aren't ready for any for of real relationship. Go out and have fun if you want, but try to mature a little before using words like love.

Tell her to mind her own business and not go through your mail and take care of it on your own? Youre 19, everyone gets horny and does stupid shit you have no need to explain yourself as a working adult just because you live with them.

Yeah you really fucked up my dude.

That sucks though, I'm sorry your horniness and desire for some Milf companionship fucked you over financially.

sucks for you. be better next time.

I guess I'd need examples but I'm sure women can be used the same way. All about the tone and context. Still, how does that relate to the present example?

That isn't any better, but Incels have a habit of using the term "female" in ways that just don't flow normally. Nothing inherently wrong with this, but it is a trend.

Dude are you kidding me, literally almost every single post referring to a woman on this app mentions their age and the letter “F” All he did was spell out the letter.

You don't deserve her. She dodged a bullet.

Sorry, I got stuck on

>Fast forward to around November 2022

Which is just a really bizarre way of saying “the other day” or “last week” or “earlier this month”

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Therapy. Right now. No, not for losing her. For your chronic lack of a spine.

He calls himself a male in the same sentence yet you pick that side huh. You know without the internet the issue around the word female wouldn't even be on anyone's horizon. Or without Reddit maybe more specifically.

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You're kind of an asshole. I get it though. We've all made mistakes when it comes to dating. You need to stop caring about what other people think though. Letting other people control your life isn't healthy. I hope the guy she's with now treats her better than you did though.

Yeah it’s time to just move on dude. Good for her for moving on now it’s time for you to do the same. Also get new friends if you haven’t already and try not to let their options dictate how you treat other people. If you have friends who just outright call the person you are interested in “ugly”, you need to reconsider your friends and their motives.

Similar events happend with me around the same age, my dad kept making fun of me for always dating "fat women" (even though he was fat himself). When he went to prison for 2 years i was able to finally work through my mental health and emotions and got back with my ex, who i had left for the same reasons as you, and now we have been together for over 6 years and we just got married last weekend. When you find someone you truly love and enjoy being with, don't let others tell you how to feel.

You should of listened to your heart and not your head or anyone else this is what happens you have to accept the fact she is happy and move on it hurts now but the second chance you should of taken that's on you if she was the one you wanted

Exactly. Those aren't friends

Yes, it took about two weeks to fully return. This was about 25 years ago. Fortunately there was no long term damage.

No no help. You now have learned a valuable lesson. She deserves better than how you've treated her. She gave you multiple chances. Do you understand how shattered and heart broken she must've been? Then to deal with it again... I'm proud of her for moving on. Those aren't friends by the way. Or at least stand up and if they stop and apologize then understandable or if they were bringing up red flags.

Take this lesson and learn how to treat women you are getting to the age where dating habits stick. That's not one you want to stick or get used to.