Not a big deal! Some day you will be laughing at this.

In my times we only need one hand and imagination. You should try that!

Saying you hate your mom and your family over this is overreacting. Do you really hate your entire family because you can't use a vibrator? Really? If not, just take it back and apologize.

About your grandmother involvement, just tell to your mom that your privacy is not for sharing with anyone, you both are mature enough to resolve this small issue.

Just forget about this, don't talk about it again with you mom.

Believe me, this thing it doesn't matter! Soon will be forgotten .

Good luck

I hope you take this as a lesson to better yourself and stand up for your future girlfriends better...wtf

Or one with an excuse to go through her daughter's stuff

Sorry to hear this OP.

It really sounds like you mum didn't know how to handle the situation and went straight into nuclear mode. She could have taken the opportunity to sit down with you and discuss it. Could have been a bonding experience but instead it's created a divide.

If I were you in this situation, if my grandparents went straight into siding with my parent without asking my opinion / side of the story, I would probably just tell the grandparents that with all due respect, it's none of their business and that you don't want to talk about it with them.

Good luck and I hope things settle down for you. I think give it a few weeks and you mum will probably forget all about it.

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As cheesy as it is… this is fucking genius

Shit happens man.

Man, your mom sounds like a bitch.

I'm not looking forward to parenting teens because of these difficult situations but I am pretty certain your mother handled this incorrectly. She could have had a discussion with you and allowed you to explain. It seems like a much better alternative to having sex at your age and I'm surprised she didn't see it that way as well. Sorry you had to go through this. Find a better hiding spot for your next toy.

Why is your mom opening your mail who cares what you spend money on.

Sheesh, no wonder you have issues and trauma with a mom like that. She has the emotional IQ of a 12 year old

They can’t get your address through the ip address

Ones without boundaries

> my crush moved away

Here’s what would be cute. Next time you are video chatting, stand up your phone on a table/desk/whatever, take a few steps back, turn on a song, then start dancing. It really ham it up and be ridiculous. She will start laughing and asking you what you’re doing. Then you can say that you regretted not dancing with her at prom, so you’re making up for it now. There can be only 3 outcomes:

1. she thinks it’s sweet and watches you be silly, which brightens her day

2. she thinks it’s fun, then gets up and dances also, which brightens her and your day

3. she realizes that she wish she could’ve danced with you at prom too, gets up and dances also, and then after the dance, the ice is broken and the two of you talk about how you felt at prom and....maybe how you feel about each other now

This can really work, OP

I read this a "a whole lot of murdering" and I was very concerned for a second.

> probably just to find some of my clothes to wear

Do you and she wear the same size? And even if so a 40F is comfortable wearing the clothing style of a teenager?

Teens shouldn't expect any privacy while living with their parents. With that said, there's way more harmful behaviors than using a vibrator. I'm sure mom flashes back to all the decisions she made at that age and the regret she may have for those actions. Flipping out at her daughter may also push her further into decisions mom not agree with. Pregnancy, drug use, self harm would all scare me more than a bullet in my daughter's room.

I'm sorry your going through that. Your mom should be relieved that you have that and aren't going out and getting it on with random people. Sex toys are a GODSEND I was way too embarrassed to buy my first one until I was out of the house. And if I would of known I would of gotten one a lot sooner (online ordering wasn't really a thing when I was growing up, and the sex shop was 18+) your mom sounds like mine was when I was younger.

Call her bluff and ask your granny if she thinks you're in the wrong when you talk to her, it might be hard but just explain it. The first paragraph you wrote here is all you really need when it comes to explaining your side of things. Even if your granny agrees that your mother is in the wrong though just leave it at that for a while, don't go straight to your mother saying granny thinks you're in the wrong because that will just throw more fuel on the fire and next thing all three of you are fighting.

With family stuff all you have to do is say what you need to and just give it time. Anything can be resolved, all you need is time.

If no one sees sense and your gran takes your mothers side I would just drop it rather than wasting your energy fighting them both. It was a really shitty thing for your mother to go through your stuff in the first place and I would just refocus your efforts into getting a lock for your bedroom door or at the very least a lock on your dresser. If your mother has a problem with this then explain to her how she invaded your privacy and made you feel guarded in a space which should be your own safe place.

For some reason this reminded me of the scene in the movie Go where Sarah Polley drinks a beer in front of the weird knock-off Amway narc.

Hahaha oh god you're gonna get the talk from your grandparents.

They been freakin for decades before you were a thought.

And they have no filter.

Good luck.

Sorry to hear that. Be careful about posting such things on reddit though, especially since you're underage.

Nah, kid, you're fucking dumb. You've jacked this girl around at least twice. Let her be with someone that might actually know how to treat her and not give your dumb ass a third chance.

Cor that comment made me oof in real life. You’re not wrong though

I feel like you should work on yourself before getting a girlfriend like you should really work on your mental health and make sure your in a good place to be in relationship because they don’t work out unless your happy. Your can’t truely be happy in a relationship if your not already happy with yourself!