Potentially contributing to why a teen could be involved in harmful behaviors in secret. But privacy isn't a right even for people independent of their parents.

Eeh I beg to differ I'm quite oblivious.

Well first of all your mum is a hypocrite, but this you already know. That's a bluff you can call. Having been in a similar situation back when I was living with my parents, I suggest this approach.

1. try to tone it down instead of going nuclear. Be the mature one.
2. play the "would you rather I had casual sex?" card. Worked for me. If I can satisfy my urges with a toy rather than a random guy from the club it's definitely better, she can't not agree. This works also for when the birth control talk comes around.
3. buy another vibrator and hide it better. Also the shower jet is a great alternative, and they can't take that lmao

Tell that to your government

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Lazy (or possessive) parenting from unqualified people who probably don't know how to form healthy relationships.

Parenting ain't easy but most of us can reproduce. Society tells people having kids "is what you do", so they do.

What a severely unhealthy way to see things.

Teenagers have a right to privacy. Have a think about how you shape a young person by making them feel like they're always being monitored. As if something as silly as an arbitrary legal age is the solution - a day before ain't cool, a day after is fine.

Another shitty thing in your POV is considering masturbation and healthy, responsible sexual habits as something bad. You should be modelling that shit for your child, not shaming them for it.

You may think you're being caring. You would 100% have the opposite effect on any teenager, for absolutely no good fucking reason.

There are a lot of difficult things about parenting teens (I imagine, I don't have kids yet *crosses fingers for kids pre-menopause....*) But I'm not sure this is one of them. Kids often start masturbating as very young children - toddler age, sometimes - and this is a normal thing for them to do. At that age, of course, it's not associated with sex for them, they've just found a body part that feels nice. Any decent parent explains privacy to a young child but does not shame them for being a human being and lets them get on with it.

Once your child has reached puberty, if you don't completely expect that your child is masturbating then I don't know what's wrong with you. Of course they are. If you come across their masturbation aid (regardless if it's a toy or porn) then just put it back where you found it and don't mention it!

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Yes it is extremely toxic. If no one else in her family supports her at all it's sad to think about. Only thing I can think of at that point is get another one if possible and just hide it way better. I grew up in a toxic home so the thought of her having to do that sucks so much but there isn't any other options when the parents/family think sexual things and masturbation is "wrong" for her.

Almost every thread ends up being a way to advertise an OF’s page.

Btw view my profile for exclusive content /s

We like women who make us laugh too! :) Thats very attractive indeed.

I just dont think every women would think thats funny, and im like 99% sure you cant speak for all women aswell.

When you like someone a lot, and it feels real, it can be very scary. Good news is you will likely handle things better in future

It would be brilliant, unfortunately OP is shy lmao

How is it “movie like”? To me, it’s showing me that they can laugh at themselves, have a sense of humour and shows they care about you in a non-pressuring way. Majority of women like men who make us laugh. It’s attractive.

My advice: Prepare to move out as soon as you can, and find some good supportive people to hang around with when you do. If she wants to scream at you for something like this, then you're better off keeping her at arms distance and dealing with her on your terms.

Good luck!

I had almost the exact same experience, although I was still disappointed.

Sounds like you both went nuclear instead of dialing it back. Neither of you is totally right or wrong. Try to start over.

Don’t involve your granny - it’s not helping you and it cannot be a sane way to solve the problem. Either your granny will side with you and your mum will go crazy or she ll side with your mum and you ll think that no one loves you. I think it’s important to set boundaries and remind your mum it’s your body your choice. As mentioned before sex toys are safe/disease free and pregnancy risk free and you re mum should value your responsible approach to sex. Tell her that even if it doesn’t make her happy it’s a reality and it’s not by taking away your toy that she ll suppress your sexuality. I ll use this opportunity to discuss contraception as well. To be fired up this way it’s probably that your mum is afraid you ll make the same mistakes she did when she was your age. So maybe you could try to reassure her, may be tell her that your school is okay and it won’t impact it or that it’s a way for you to fight against anxiety related to sex for example. Somehow and unfortunate you ll have to be the adult here. Good luck.

Why is a teenager not entitled to privacy?

i had a feeling im gonna see boobs when i press on her profile. i did not get disappointed.

I thought this was a joke comment at first, then I realized it's actually a serious comment.

It seriously keeps surprising me every time I see a post with a teen not allowed to have a freaking door for their bedroom. Like what. Privacy is a human right

Perhaps some would think its cute....i would think someone has a stroke. Wouldnt be my cup of tea at least.

I really dont like those over the top "movie like" moves. Those belong into movies if you ask me. If you want to show your affection it makes more sense to do mindful, helpful stuff and not some strange dance move in front of your camera.