This advice is for dealing with a reasonable person, and ngl, OPs mum sounds like a bit of a narcissist and sounds like she sees OP as her property with no right to privacy

Girl, I was young. Based on your grammar I would say north of 16 at least, and that is a good age, you were handling it the correct way and I think your mom is just spun because this is probably the first time she's seeing her baby girl as a sexual being (not in a weird way- just that you're becoming a woman and an aspect of that is that you're going to get sexual)

The situation could've been handled better on both ends with some proper effective communication, but just remember 1.) this too shall pass, 2.) it's not the end of the world. My mom and I fought like cats and fucking dogs, almost getting physical a time or two (I could never lay a hand on my mom), and we couldn't STAND each other (always loved each other though), and now we're best friends. Y'all just need time to cool off.

I know pride in a teenaged girl is a finicky thing, but after a few days at your grandmothers it might help the situation if you reached out first with an apology on how you reacted, and asked if she could give you the time to listen and let you explain your side of the story, and that you love her!

Everything is going to be okay!

That sounds like abusive behavior to me, your belongings, your clothes, your space, aren't yours, they're hers; and honestly if your grandparents are worse and this doesn't stop, seriously consider contacting child protective services

Well now you have a joke that you can say only works if you are bilingual.

I’ve seen what parents like you are like go to therapy

Maybe your parents should have told you not to post nudes online with your face in them, but looking good bro.

Haha, thanks. I know my grandparents are more reasonable though so itll probably go better than with my mom

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Than what's this doing on tifu?? It worked out anyway. :D Most things won't work out how you expected it but glad you guys found eachother

“Hey do you want to be my girlfriend?” That’s how I got mine.

And now you a Ophi go on a mission trip together and then travel the country in a van with a cute pupper. DO IT. She really likes you if you ran away and she found you and waited. That's a special kind of love and patience and that girl will learn your favorite recipes, and make them better than your momma does. Trust and believe, do not let her go

Yeah ive already decided to cut her off and move out as soon as i can. My only trouble at the moment is finding a job since everything over here doesnt hire around my age at least for another year

Though i think differently on whether its a big deal or not. There are a lot of things outside of this that caused me to hate my family, especially my mom. The only people i feel safe enough to even go to or be near are 2 cousins.

Even though i wouldnt like to talk about this again, my mom'll definitely will to either use against me or try to humiliate me with.

Trust me, ive tried imagination and my hand before, it doesnt really work as much for me since i still dont know a lot. But ill work on it

oh ok i thought it was just that…

Its not like i have a choice in the matter. My mom already called her and told her the entire situation plus more of what was said and done and im gonna stay at her house for the rest of the week as well as have a one on one talk with her about it. Probably more.

Wow... That's a weird way to look at it, letting her live in the house and feeding/clothing her are things she's entitled to get from her parents given that shes still a minor. If her parents didnt do those bare minimum things they would be awful people, that isnt some favor theyre doing her. She didn't choose to be born, her mom chose to have her, so acting like her mom is being generous in anyway for doing what is literally her job is ridiculous considering that's doing the bare minimum as a parent.

Obviously rules should be in place and not having boyfriends over or being alone with a boy in her room would be fair rules but this is not that. Saying your kid can't masturbate or freaking out like she describes in this post is just creepy and expecting to be in control of what she does with her own body when she's alone isn't normal.

Lol

On paper, reality has more exceptions whether allowed by law or not.

Do you have kids?

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Not gonna lie, ive played both of those first two. With 1, i get way too worked up even a first few words in since she starts yelling and berating me so it doesnt work for long. With 2, i said it and the first time she ignored me and second she just repeated that im too young for these things.

Calling bluffs doesnt work on my mom, unfortunately. She only blows up more and with the way she acts when reason is provided and her problems have clear and understandable solutions im pretty sure shes a narcissist. Both savior and victim complex. Thankfully my hranny is a lot more reasonable so she should understand.

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I bet at least one of them thinks you're a cat fucker

We do, ive already asked her to stop wearing my clothes but she goes ahead to wear them anyways. Ive stopped trying to talk to her about boundaries since "kids dont have any" from her perspective. Hiding things are the only way to have any privacy really.