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troubled_stranger OP t1_iwharim wrote

Reply to comment by Steve_Austin_OSI in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger

Even if i did lose my cool, i dont feel i should apologize for it as stuck up as that sounds. I tried to start off calm and she immediately responded to it by yelling which caused me to lash out in turn.

Just because its her word doesnt mean i should or have to follow it. Yes, i know, shes a parent with more experience with me within this field but i dont see the problem with it since 1. Its helping me figure myself out and 2. Im not doing it with a person and a healthy way to let out these feelings.

Even though i do see what youre saying, i dont see any harm of having one nor is there any harm in it as far as i understand. She doesnt see any of the situation reasonably nor will she try to. She goes off of assumptions shes made in her head and only sticks with them whether theyre true or not.

You can explain this to me in more detail if it seems like im not getting it. All im seeing here is that she lashed out at me first because of her irrationability of the situation as a whole even when i tried to explain it to her which caused me to lash out as well. If that makes sense

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SHybrid t1_iwhadmh wrote

Reply to comment by troubled_stranger in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger

Then your solution is probably to power through, hide better your future toys and find alternative solutions (e.g. the shower nozzle). You won't be there forever.

Also when you decide to go for the real thing, don't let the fear of your mother meddling stop you from buying condoms, birth control etc. Absolutely.

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SHybrid t1_iwh9ufp wrote

Reply to comment by Steve_Austin_OSI in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger

I have no words but lol. Are you even a parent? If yes I hope these are just some extreme examples to get a kick out of talking back to a random stranger, and not real parenting tips.

If I'm to go in detail...

Your police car theft example doesn't stand. Here's why. You were doing something illegal. OP is not, nor was OP's mom when she had a vibrator. On top of that, the ethical positions on using a sex Toy can be variable, while car theft Is inherently wrong. I can possibly imagine (with not little effort) that there may be some sort of reasons for a person to regret having used a vibrator, that doesn't justify OP's mother reaction and her way of ignoring the detail that she had a vibrator too, when called out. If She thinks she had good reasons to regret a completely legal and legitimate thing, she should rationally explain why she wouldn't suggest it to her daughter instead of going berserk.

'OP's mum can argue that she's watched 24/7'

How is that healthy?! Like... Wow. Amazing parenting there. Talk about not antagonizing the situation.

Which brings me to 'don't buy another vibrator'

If the things are so bad that OP can't get back her previous one, then she should definitely buy another. It's healthier than not have one and satisfy your needs elsewhere. And not all women can get off only by-hand or (alas) with the shower.

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troubled_stranger OP t1_iwh93z4 wrote

Reply to comment by GanacheWeak6896 in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger

I promise, ive tried to communicate with her a bunch of times. She only hears what she wants to hear, takes it out of preportion, and gets even more unreasonable. My word about it is seen as "talking back" even though thats not the case at all.

With the emancipation and adoption thing, my entire family is very strong on "even if she did wrong you, shes still your mom so you have to respect that" and "adoption is not a choice when you have a mother thats trying."

Ive tried everything i can in this household, my mother isnt strict shes just extremely unreasonable even in a calm enviroment.

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sukuii t1_iwh8uqb wrote

Reply to TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger

Don't let your mom tell you shit. From the looks of it, you are the adult and she is the child in this situation. You did nothing wrong, and exploring your sexuality is normal and healthy behavior for a teenager. You even have the sense to do with an underlying motivation (working through some bad experiences), and isn't just monke horny motivated. Her behaving like this is more than likely to add to the negative experience than to solve it, and no parent should treat their children like this.

It sucks to say but there also isn't a whole lot you can do. Like your mom says you are still young, and mostly still dependant on your parent(s). The only advice I could give you is try to have an open and calm conversation, where you clearly relay your motivation and opinion on the matter. Getting angry or upset, no matter how right you are or feel, will only reinforce their idea that you are "just a kid", whereas calmy openly discussing it will show some maturity and thought about the whole thing.

Edit: a thought came up to me. Maybe a smart move would be to tell your granny that a SERIOUS boundary has been crossed by your mother, and concrete actions have to be taken. I'm not talking about punishment or revenge, but this dynamic between you and your mother has to change. It's not healthy for you to have to hide things for your mother, and it's not healthy for her to completely stomp over all her kids wishes and boundaries. Maybe suggesting a talk with a mediator or psychologist with you and your mom will show both her and her granny that you have reached a limit, and something HAS to change.

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bajan_queen_bee t1_iwh8iuo wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling Polish soldiers that I eat pussy with absolutely zero context by [deleted]

Don't feel bad.. that's a hoot.

My dear friend was in Nepal part of Peace Corps.. Having dinner with his host family. He thought he was becoming skilled in local language.

They asked him.. what he liked to do at night.. He said read.. he could read 3 or 4 hours every night.

Infact most Americans like to read. They read on trains, planes, most anywhere.

The father looked at he Said so u really like to read??

Oh yes.

It's was at that time a son.. light bulb lite.

Then said.. U know u just told my father u like to fart and can fart for 3 or 4 hours.

And all Americans like to fart.

🤣🤣🤣

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Trick-Landscape5581 t1_iwh8h3v wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling Polish soldiers that I eat pussy with absolutely zero context by [deleted]

This was several years ago when I was still learning Spanish to talk to my partner's family. I didn't notice, and apparently he didn't either. There are different slang words in different parts of Mexico. I guess I should've figured that, but how could I ever have guessed that I was telling our friend that we were having dick for dinner?

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Known-Skin3639 t1_iwh8299 wrote

Reply to comment by Im-a_fuck-up in TIFU by running away when a girl made the first move by Im-a_fuck-up

My dude…. If you like her then the best thing you could do is start slow. Hold her hand back. Running like that probably scared her as much as her holding her hand scared you. My old man advise to you is to talk to her. Heart to heart. Tell her you didn’t know how to process what happened. I’m sure she will understand. Girls are pretty cool like that. Usually. You say your oblivious. We all are my friend. Listen to her. Pay attention to body language and comments. There is a lot of information there. You’ll get there I promise. It’s hard some times. I know this because I was kind of like you when I was young. I over came it with the same advise I just gave you. Relationships are awesome.

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