Given that I hate to waste food, I’d be willing to try most anything. I have zero experience with this, but I’d rather experiment with this (and fail) than continue to eat something that is irritating the f out of my injured gums and possibly compromising the extraction site(s). Air fryers and convection ovens seem ideal for this kind of thing as they both use forced convection to heat food.

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With a paid off house, 2 kids, a wife, and 2 dogs?

It’s honestly sounds like you need to have a different conversation with your GF.

The fact she didn’t believe you, and had to go see for herself means she didn’t / doesn’t have respect or trust you in this situation. That is a red flag you need to address now, because that behaviour won’t go away.

The rest is just mental abuse.

You don’t get mad at your partner when they answer a question you ask honestly.. all that does is breed a relationship where you feel the need to lie. What you do is talk about your feelings, and how someone actions are effecting your. If she felt threatened or worried about how your fantasies makes her feel, then you two need to work together to come up with a solution (and yes, that might be she needs to do some personal growth) . You don’t just freeze out your partner.

You are an incel.

Try an app called Alarmy. You can set it to make you get up and scan a qr code to turn it off.

/wave

Only her jaw, it was previous trauma as well. No EDS for her, she has no other symptoms we've ever noted

Well again, I work at a restaurant. My idea of “food safe” isn’t the layman’s version. I know it wouldn’t really be an issue, but some part of the back of my brain just doesn’t trust food that’s been left out.

I can think of nothing that would make them unsafe.

I mean, cheese was invented as a preservation method for milk. It ain't gonna go bad in a few hours. Especially with all of the salt in those bastards. 😀

If they were Steak 'Ums or something, sure... but...

Part of my problem is that I usually just eat them and don’t have any left. It’s my wife and kids who leave a couple, and we usually fail to properly refrigerate them after, so they wouldn’t be good safe anyway.

Air fryer generally solves that quite well. 400F for 5 minutes or so is plenty to crisp up and re-warm them

I am not hyper flexible in any way.

Well she likely doesn't realize and as I said before maybe OP should TALK TO HIS GIRLFRIEND INSTEAD OF REDDIT?

You know how I avoid these situations? I ask my girlfriend to talk and explain how I am feeling and typically she apologizes or say sorry I didn't realize it would affect you this much.

And vice versa for her. It's called communication, still don't see it as mental abuse though.

That was going to be my advice too. Take them home, put them in the fridge to be reheated in the oven/air fryer. Then either eat a couple a day for the next few days as your teeth allow or give them to a pal, but to force oneself, no no no.

If she’s dislocated her jaw before (and/or any other joints) has she been checked for hypermobility issues like Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome? I have hEDS and while I’m pretty sure it’s part of the reason I have no gag reflex, it’s also the reason I have dislocated my jaw numerous times while deep throating partners, lol.

It’s always a good test of the other person’s level of calm too. I warned my now-husband about it and it happened the very first time I went down on him. I sat up, reduced it (I carry a syringe in my purse just for this reason), then went to continue a little less vigorously and he stopped me immediately and was like “whoa whoa, your jaw just came out of your skull. You don’t need to continue!” and I told him that my jaw comes out of my skull when I do a number of things. If I stopped trying to do what I was doing every time it happened, I’d never yawn, sing, yell and cheer at a game, eat hamburgers or subs, give head, etc. He sort of paused for a beat and then went, “okay then!” and we continued, lol.

Now he’s not even fazed when he wakes up to me putting the various parts of my skeleton back into place in the morning.

Use automatic lights to wake you up. There's plenty of options. Also keep a bottle of cold water next to bed, and drink some water to wake up. Water is better than coffee as part of the morning grogginess is caused by dehydration.

Workplace fantasies are quite common, but her worries aren’t a far leap

Personally, I would call it off with the GF. 1) if she’s really into the coworker, then it’s not gonna end well for you, so leave with dignity or 2) if she’s playing games it’s good to call her bluff and snuff out that mind game stuff. She needs to know you’re not playing that game.

It was mid session for sure, and I felt it as soon as it happened. It felt like I sliced my clit off it hurt so bad.

I've honestly never mentioned it to my Dr. I do mention it to partners because if they suck on my clit too hard it can hurt. I forgot to mention it to someone I was hooking up with and the gland popped out and he stopped and looked up at me terrified but I was fine so he like slowly went back to it 🤣🤣

I've learned recently that apparently some women do this on purpose as a body mod 🤯.

I don't mind answering cause it should definitely be talked about. I've looked into it now that I'm older and I've found threads on other websites of girls going through the same thing and nobody ever knew it was a possibility, and are scared after the fact. I know I was. I never brought it up to my mother either.

I didn’t say I didn’t see it as manipulation. I said it’s not mental abuse. Is he really falling apart because his girlfriend is talking to his female coworker? Plus just talk to your girlfriend don’t post on Reddit. Say “hey, this is bothering me. Why are you doing this?” I am sure she is just messing with him.

Same

Definitely dry socket. Go back to the oral surgeon and they can pack it with cloves. You’ll get instant relief. I’m surprised you haven’t had pain before trying to eat.

This is a good reasoned response and should be higher. Don’t freak out over what may happen and decide the proper course if/when something happens.

Have you ever been checked for Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome?