Hang on - hold the press - this is extremely relevant!!

You’re a non drinker and your ‘friends’ had no issue, problem or concern about you stumbling around drunk, making speeches and doing stand up that wrecked your relationship?? If (whilst regaling you with stories of your exploits), no one mentioned how out of character it was for you, or that they tried getting you to sleep it off, I think you just found out who spiked you. Sorry dude.

ETA: Get that tox screen and press charges on whoever spiked you, even if it was just with alcohol.

Just so you know for the future, a number rating on anyone's looks automatically makes it a creepy detail.

No one should have to be a saint to put up with their partner. That’s abuse.

I appreciate what you did was a one off, but you called her unattractive in front of alllll your friends. I don’t see how her self esteem can come back from that, unless she’s from an abusive background where she’s been taught to swallow her own feelings for others’ comfort.

Time to either get into therapy, or take this stuff about mean girls to your grave. Preferably both.

Hey, we all make mistakes.. just make sure you learn from it and do better next time ❤️

Maybe as a man I don't understand this shit but if someone told me I was a 6 I would be happy. 6 is not bad? I would rather someone was with me because I was kind and funny not because I was attractive. I think women just confuse me too much :|

Damn,you sober up and you still say she's a 6? You done fucked up real good.

I seriously doubt your drink got spiked, you're just a light weight

All these comments belong in r/aita, this is a different sub guys. Dude knows he’s an asshole, your job isn’t to pass judgement, just laugh at his idiocy

You’ll just have to reverse course and lie to her that she’s actually super hot. Girls need that kind of reassurance, don’t try to fight the natural order of things.

Get a tox-screen to lend your excuse credibility and then you'll have to lie and tell her you were out of your mind. Sticking to the truth will only work if your girlfriend is enlightened to the point of recognising that conventional attractiveness is much less prevalent and important than society would like you to believe. But the want for ones partner to consider one beautiful probably runs deeper than societal indoctrination so even then it'll be an uphill battle.

What I'm trying to say is you either have to lie to her and everyone that was there that evening and continue that relationship based on lies. Or you stick to the truth hope for an incredible amount of forgiveness and make sure to never let that information out in your next relationship.

I mean that's cute and all but that doesn't cause a nicotine headrush

Ah, maybe! I haven't heard that claim before. I quess! Do you mean like when a sentence like Cooking is so much nicer when one have a pan. would go in finnish like this: Kokkaaminen on niin paljon mukavampaa kun on pannu_ ,but since 'pannu' is also an imperfect of 'shagging' or 'f*cking', it can be translated into enjoying cooking after having sex.

I'm thinking this the most likely outcome as she is not a saint. Yes. But I'm also hoping she will give me the chance to at least apologise.

I'm 'claiming' this because I stopped drinking after 1st year of uni which was 12 years ago (enrolled late due to military service).

I don't normally. It was to give people an idea of what she looks like without going into creepy detail.

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And I haven't drunk alcohol (knowingly) for the last 12 years.

Yeah. Probably...

Yeah, I'm well aware of this. Posted this here partly because I'm sitting here with the knowledge that I've probably wrecked this relationship and quite possibly any chance of finding another person I can relate to for the next... Century or so?

'Soon' as in at the very least a few days. Haven't tried contacting her since the morning and trying to figure out how the fuck I'm going to salvage anything out of our (quite probably finished) relationship.

The reason I think my drink got spiked is that I haven't touched alcohol since 1st year of uni. I only ever drink water or whatever else non-alcoholic options are available.

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And yes. I'm well aware I was a right ass last night. The thing is I have no idea how the hell I'm going to apologise as she doesn't even want to talk to me. I also have no idea how the F I'm going to explain the problem I have as that part is actually true. Lying to her at this point to make her feel better feels scummy but then... Been thinking about this for the last few hours and I'm not getting anywhere.

This a hundred times over.

You humiliated her, in front of people within your circle, which makes it entirely worse.. almost unforgivable.

You totally fucked up.

Ooh yes: do this. Get that tox screen. You might could save the relationship with verified proof that you were not in your right mind

Until your drink is spiked

Logarithmic scale is too complicated tho

If you really think your drink got spiked, go to the hospital and tell them and get a tox screen / drug panel whatever done. If something shows up, you can actually use your otherwise very hard to believe story.

Otherwise, you just got drunk and showed your true colors.

Best of luck and I hope you can reflect instead of being defensive as might be one's immediate reaction to the onslaught of negative, yet honest and accurate, comments here — all of which essentially boil down to "you're an asshole."

But remember, people aren't words. You're not an asshole. You just acted like one and perhaps continue to act in an assholian manner. People change. I would look at this as an opportunity to audit yourself, what you want, who you want to be, and how to become the good person you otherwise think — perhaps incorrectly — that you are today.

“Hopefully she’s going to calm down soon..” wow, lol really?! You can manage the situation by leaving her alone.

I think you and alcohol need a break from each other too.

And stop rating girls from 1 to 10, it's weird and creepy.