Whoosh. The fact that it’s lower ABV is exactly my point. I have an extremely low alcohol tolerance and I would still not be blackout drunk after champagne and shots. Miserable yes. But not blackout.

Well mikes hard lemonade is less potent than liquor and hardly comparable.

Let’s take his mixed drinks for example. If the mixed drinks were over poured with 60ml instead of 44ml he would have had just over 4 drinks in 3 glasses.

Now let’s talk about the champagne. He didn’t say if it was poured in a flute or a wine glass, if it was in a wine glass then a glass of wine is supposed to be poured 1/3 full. Suppose the bartender poured it 2/3 full. That would essentially make it two glasses of wine. So 5 drinks can easily become 7+ drinks by over pouring

Idk, from (my personal) experience with emotionally volitile situations, my guess would be that she is holding back because she hasnt processed it enough to bring it up (without being too mean or too kind and regretting it). She needs to work out how she feels about the situation.

It must have been something pretty bad for the negativity to outweigh all the good he did.

Either way, the info provided (or lack thereof) its not enough info to make assertions like that and, worst case, could make OP belittle her feelings by calling her out (and in the process force her to explain how she feels before she has fully processed it, which will absolutely not go well). Plus if OP brings up her lack of concearn for him that will come across as extremely narcissistic.

People need to be allowed to process traumatic situations and more often than not that means biting their tongue and not talking about the situation at all until their emotions settle down and they can think/speak rationally.

She is considering leaving OP so should get all the space she needs, instead of having her partner get it into their head that she is being selfish (its just a recipe for disaster) because of assumtions like that.

Edit: Assumptions in situations like these are almost always wrong (or at least very risky) because of incomplete data. OP needs to wait for their gf to explain how she feels, then judge from that how to proceed with said information.

Always poo standing up pal

Alcoholism comes in many forms. Not every alcoholic is on the brink of dialysis and unemployed drinking daily. Prolonged periods of abstinence do not preclude someone from alcoholism.

The primary symptom of an alcoholic is an inability to control their drinking, e.g. binge drinking. A typical non alcoholic drinker usually will nurse their drink over a longer period of time, perhaps not even finishing it before it gets warm before going to get another. They will have a set limit on how many drinks (typically 1 or 2) they intend to have and will stick to that limit, possibly not even reaching it. On special occasions such as holidays they may drink more excessively but will do so in a responsible manner and likely will not be bingeing one after the other. They similarly do not drink with the motivation of “feeling it”.

How about you seek help for that nose of yours that you've got buried so deep in other people's business. Might want to look for help dismounting from your high horse while you're at it.

Scotch is not typically 120proof lmao. You're talking mighty confidently for a guy who has no clue what he's saying. Try 80 proof (40%) give or take a few points.

>OP's gf might be being unfair, but it's not her fault and doesnt mean she doesnt care

The only thing OP has said regarding the GF is that she said he "ruined her night" that's why I asked the question.

I get what you're saying, but OP has said nothing about GF being concerned for him.

And honestly, given what seems to have gone down, to minimize it as "ruining her night" after everything else he did for her, comes off as possibly narcissistic to me.

Edit: OP said in a comment that GF is a keeper, but has offered no reason why or any explanation of her reaction, that's why I asked about length of relationship and whether they've been out drinking before. If it's a short relationship and/or they've never been out drinking, then I can see why GF might not give him the benefit of the doubt, but we don't know.

I’m a guy which is why I never thought I’d be in this situation

The fuckin sir might have left it on 2MC.

She might be concearned but not able to express it because of the resentment over how OP acted.

Feelings arent so black and white that knowing something was or wasnt intentional makes them go away. My older brother has some serious mental health issues and Ive seen him have a cognitive flip and many psychotic outburts (often directed towards me), some were so severe that his pupils would dialate, and he would speak rapidfire nonsense, it was like looking at the face of the Devil. Even though he has had years of therapy and now lives on his own with his fiancee and is able to live a normal life I still struggle to look at/interact with him sometimes because I cant unsee or unfeel those things (regardless of the fact that it wasnt his fault at all). As a result I have a very awkward relationship with him to the point that our step sister says that she can feel the tension when we are in the same room together.

I feel so guilty and it isnt his fault and I do try, but I cant just forget or fully get over all that stuff no matter how much I want to. Its also not my fault.

OP's gf might be being unfair, but it's not her fault and doesnt mean she doesnt care.

Emotions often outweigh logic, even when you know you're being unfair.

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I’m not sure if you’re a girl or a guy, but it could also be health related.

If you’ve got low iron/anemia, if you’re on anti-anxiety meds or the like.

Just a thought!

I get buzzed off the neck of a Mike’s hard lemonade and I wouldn’t be blackout after that much.

I took it easy on theose classes they're brutal. I have passed out from a trainer once. That scared me a bit.

You suggesting a sub isn't a ship. Dumb take.

that’s a little harsh. The occasional binge - especially socially with others - hardly makes you an alcoholic.

That's probably a sign that you're overexerting like I was.

When I was in cadets, away at summer camp, the phrasing was almost exclusively announced as

" female on the male tent line" or "female on deck"

Due to numbers. Because we were kids, but in a (semi)serious military situation someone would always yell "with male on top" or similar

It was sadly my own unfortunate choice to jump right in without starting smaller. I should have stopped when I was overwhelmed, but didn't. Even the trainers warned me not to overdo it.

Cross fit makes plenty of people puke.

Code Deez

Man, just tossing you into an intensive workout without any buildup? Is that normal for CrossFit?

im still getting over covid, last week I was coughing so much in the shower i vomited and pulled some muscles around my ribs on my back

Nah rohypnal and other benzos cause this when mixed with alcohol, is literally like liquid ecstasy hence the nickname and can put you to sleep quick