>So by this point whenever i shoot her down or remind her that I'm not her boyfriend and she shouldn't expect anything, she gets mean.... And i mean 9th grader popular girl mean, and throws some stupid fit over something she already knows is not gonna work. And comes back by Apologising literally under 3 minutes.

>Now i et it go a couple times before because of the crush and how it must be hard for her, but today she actually managed me to piss me off.

>She says she doesn't wanna the puppy who follows me and waits around for me and she's over my crush,(relief)..... Then she says i should leave her alone and let her do whatever she wants, i was pissed instantaneously.

>I kept warding off this bitch, for her own good, i puy her safety first because that's what any responsible man would do, and i was a good friend to her, and she was a part of my life too, i too found a good friend in her, and she just decides all of a sudden that she doesn't have a crush on me so i shouldn't even be her friend?

>I went ballistic, then told her sure have it's your way, I'm leaving you alone, not after 2 mins i get her text, so what are you doing.

>Now i dont know how some people would react but i again blasted her with every rude comment i showed her every conversation where she was rude to me where it wasn't even my fault and the many times i let it slide, and then the drama started again, she's sorry, 20 stickers in a row. Now all I'm thinking is why couldn't have i just said i am busy, it would've been so much easier. So fucking easier.

This entire part is fucked up

You should've been more mature on your part because you're the older one. She's 16, and you're 21 and yet you're acting just as immature as her. The fuck up here isn't that you taught your professor's daughter English, it's this one.

You could've avoided all of this by informing her father that she's in love with you and it makes you uncomfortable

Whether it does or it doesn't, I personally prefer to get my relationship advice from someone who doesn't use their platform to spew hate. There is so much good advice out there that we don't need to be quoting hateful people (and in the process teaching someone, or maybe several someones, about a person they should all stay far the fuck away from).

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Speaking as both a middle manager, and someone who got out of a toxic/abusive relationship.

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If you don't want to antagonize her by getting a restraining order that fine. But figure out what a restraining order requires, and get everything totally set up. Talk to the cops about it NOW so they have a record, and include that conversation in a contact tracker with her.

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She texts you? Summarize in the contact tracker. She threatens you? Summarize and highlight. She calls you? Summarize in the tracker, send a text confirming that summary. Just a "Hey, just wanna make sure I remember that call right. You said I could pick up the yearbook I forgot Saturday around 2, right?" in text where its very plain on re-read.

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You're better off spending hours on a tracker you don't need, than years saddled with a problem because you didn't have enough documentation to support yourself from willful/accidental miscommunication, ESPECIALLY with a hostile ex.

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I'm going to tell you this from an older guy who's been through the wringer. Of all the people who ever said "I can't" it's always been an "I won't". I won't put in the time and effort to make it happen. I won't do the homework to get it done. I won't.

This is your first life lesson as you enter adulthood. How much do you want it? This theme will repeat ad nauseam through out your life.

All you do is call people idiots you dumb fucking sack of shit. Go outside and talk to people

-Wayne Gretzky

-Michael Scott

I don't know who Jordan Peterson is but even bad people are right sometimes

You posted in "today I fucked up" not "gentle teenage relationship advice"

I'm in a new apartment already, the post I quoted is from a week and a half ago. Sorry for not being clear, will make an edit.

ok imagine that the name wasn't put under the quote. would the quote make sense given this situation?

Everyone is dumb here

There is nothing wrong with wanting to try and help others to see things about themselves or their lives that they don’t see. But:

1. it isn’t your responsibility to be that person for other people

2. you can’t help those who refuse to help themselves

3. protecting yourself and protecting your heart from people who are reckless & careless with it is always a good decision

4. having your own boundaries on how it is you will be treated by others of the best form of self care there is

Do not beat yourself up for the mistakes of your past. Instead learn from them, grow because of them, and become the best version of yourself you can. There is a path from where you are now to a place where you are unimaginably happy with a loving and supportive partner. It is up to you to do the work to move past where you are now and to find that path.

I wish you luck, OP.

I bet you the crimes this family has done to this girl go far beyond just holding her hostage economically, the father has probably absolutely abused her physically and sexually, and even if he hasn't, she's been shown that these tantrums she throws gets her way for the most part.

She’s moving an hour away , that’s it

My wife lived almost 2 hours away from me when we were first dating , just means you don’t have weekdays but you plan a weekend together and you take turns going back and forth , you can make it work it’s possible

I don't know if you know but this guy is a misogynistic idiot who really doesn't have any useful life advice and def shouldn't be quoted or even listened to.

this is so untrue. what dangerous information to spread.

Dumb as hell and insecure to boot. Fucking hilarious.

Apple meet tree

Bro he's a psychopath, you need to record yourselves in every conversation you have with them all just to cover your own ass, and you should escape this nightmare before it becomes worse for you.

There is no redemption in this situation, your gf is a broken person and it's the parents fault, so now they need to deal with her on their own.

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The kind they made all on their own.

OP, if you threw a 180 lbs person 4 ft from a wrap around position on your body then you are truly a beast. If she is bragging about breaking ribs during sex then bow your head modestly and smile knowingly.

She's very depressed (not surprisingly/which contributed to this) and has gained weight but I don't see it when I look at her