This was brilliant entertainment for me sitting at my airport gate.

I think I may have dodged a bullet.

One day you will look back on this and have a hard time understanding why you put so much time and energy into this person. There probably won't be an answer, besides naivety.

Hopefully something good can come from this. You now have a much better understanding of what a healthy relationship should or shouldn't be. You will heal and be stronger. One day you will meet someone and be amazed at how effortless the relationship is. You will pinch yourself wondering how you found someone so wonderful. You will breathe a sigh of relief every time you have a minor disagreement and it doesn't end in screaming.

Her mental illness is not her fault, but it is her responsibility.

SO MUCH FAR!

It took

• lying* on her bed screaming that I was hurting her, the neighbors should call the cops, flipping me off, and reminding me "Who do you think they'll believe" while I was several feet away from her
• switching from throwing plastic gatorade bottles to insulated water bottles

to get me to go from "maybe I can ride out the lease" to "no" - I found and moved into my current place inside of five days

Just came her to comment that I spent more time reading comments and seeing OPs weird replies then the post itself. But from what I gathered, a whole lotta stupid is going on .

… You are aware pregnancy can happen outside of marriage, yes? Like fertility doesn’t only kick in once you’re legally married.

I definitely did that at one point, I don't anymore. ESH.

I'm at fault for letting it happen and not pulling the ripcord when (I hate this term）red flags showed, she's at fault for continuing to refuse to be an independent adult, and her parents are at fault for raising her to refuse to be an independent adult.

I grew up in a rural area with no car. An hour away was eternity.

Bro….

I ain't reading all that. I'm happy for u tho. Or sorry that happened.

That's a lot less than the three years OP will never get back

<3 I like you. Thank you.

I added a warning at the top, I'm sorry that I didn't put it up at first. Frankly, I'm posting this for myself as an add-on to therapy. Maybe I'll do that at some point but I think it's equally as likely I just let it all stay in the past.

So why do you think that you would have put up with such behavior for so long? Do you have any clue as to why you think you don’t matter? That’s what I meant.

Your wife jumped the gun just a teensy bit me thinks

Congrats, my man. Yeah, no one knows what the future holds. One connection ends. Another will open up. Live life for yourself and don't make it your life goal to find a spouse asap.

Since we're talking about interesting histories of how we met our S/O's, my wife is my friend's sister. Lol. My buddy's sister moved back into town. I met her one night when my friend invited her to hang out with him. They're very close since they're barely under a year apart. She and I were clicking the more we hung out with each other. It took me a long time to actually pursue her because, you know, she was friend's sister and didn't want to make things awkward in any way. Well, in the end I received my friend's blessing. He knew that we liked each other. We met 16 years ago, got married 8 years later, and now have a 5 year old son together.

He was talking about his wife/from personal experience unfortunately. Very nice guy.

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Double check, disable and reenable to be sure it's working. Start getton anxious about your mute state. Check again. Get asked a question, don't find unmute fast enough. Repeat.

That's why I'm here, this is the rubicon show.

Because neither ever applied.

This is difficult to read

Why not just say wife / ex-wife? Lol

I can relate to this except I bought the ring, got married and then handed over half of everything I'd worked for when we separated... You did the right thing get out and get your life back.

It took me a long time to realise that just because my now ex wife was clearly and repeatedly abused, it didn't stop her from also being an abuser. She was both victim and perpetrator.

Same story - helicopter, controlling parents resulting in her severe depression and anxiety. Her actions cutting me off entirely from my friends and family. The only difference is that it wasn't her dad, it was her mum who was the problem.

I'm almost certain her she was textbook narcissistic personality disorder.

You might doubt your decision every now and then but it's the right one. Stay safe.