Make an pre and post-underway checklist, laminate it and keep it in the boat.

Definitely, I’ve helped extinguish several fires in my street, during a hot summer compost piles randomly combusted

Probably better to tell them now instead of when they buy those expensive glasses. Just tell them it got out of hand and you didn’t know how to break it to them lmao

Yeah, COS intervention might actually be better for your sibling so they don't go through any of the same abuse you do. This isn't a TIFU. You did the right thing by talking with your therapist, and they did the right thing by trying to protect you and your sibling. Your mom and her bf are literally abusive, based on your description, and your therapist thinks so too.

I second this!

In some cases they recommend family therapists, support groups, and parenting classes. They are social workers that understand the world isn’t black and white.

OP, you’re getting downvoted a lot, and I need you to know that most of the people here don’t know what it’s like to have that type of relationship with their mother.

My biological mother similarly treated me closer to a friend than as their child, well it’s a long story, but CPS was called for a reason.

I don’t think the downvotes are warranted because these internet strangers don’t have enough context for your protection of sibling and yourself.

Op if you need someone to talk to, inbox is open

Good luck

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>that the fantastical and often conflicting stories of the bible aren't historically factual?

I personally believe that the conflicts are deliberate, God's message to us to be cautious in being convinced that we know his will. He could appear tomorrow and clear it all up if it was just an accident.

"A zealot does what he thinks God would do if only God had all the facts of the matter."

The T stands for "Three weeks ago".

>if you feel like you can’t share your insights and be respected

"Of what use is a friend who can only be approached in the right way?"

One of the most valuable purposes of a friend is that they know when you're talking out of your ass. Not every comment is a Papal pronunciation and they need to know not to treat it as such.

My neighbors would hope my pups and I were on fire.

I promise you are wrong. First of all they see how you are treated and I'm sure have been around to hear the "yelling matches." And what you think is being treated better, you may be unable to tell that they are still not being treated well, and are probably being treated wrong in another way.

You did nothing wrong here. And if cps deems everything okay, which sadly... They probably will even if they aren't okay. Then it's w.e. But your siblings will still likely have different scars.

But maybe we're wrong, and they will be perfectly fine. Of course I hope that and it's okay for you to hope that but don't let yourself be blind to the possibility. Remember individual perception matters.

And even your guardians may not realize how bad they are if they were treated badly. "I'm better than my parents were" doesn't mean much sometimes.

Trust me... I know.

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Unfortunately a lot of us believe that faith is enough to excuse a considerable lack of thought. It’s one of the main reasons why Christianity as a whole gets such a bad rep.

Wait wait wait, are you telling me that there's Christians who understand that the fantastical and often conflicting stories of the bible aren't historically factual?

Fuck, why couldn't you be around when I got a month of detention at a Catholic school for questioning some of the conflicting accounts. (Also, my detention punishment was to read the bible, which I don't think they grasped the irony of...)

Bless your heart.

doesn’t sound like a fuck up, sounds like they’ve been abusing you and taking advantage of you and they deserve to have cps called because none of this is healthy

I'm sorry but all those things sound like good reasons to have CPS called. Maybe CPS isn't the best solution, but your parents not being able to guarantee consistently available drinking water is a big problem. Your mom's boyfriend sounds like a mess of a person and not a great person to have in your life.

The reality is that when parents can't care for their kids, CPS steps in. And it really sounds like there are times at least when your parents aren't able to care for their kids.

They are not. He's married to someone else for a few years now. No idea what baby momma is up to.

You did right, not the least of which is the fact that to get useful therapy that will actually benefit your mental health, your therapist needs to know the full picture. They are very limited in the help they can offer you if you are hiding things.

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It must be difficult because you still have to live with them. Is there someone else you could live with? A family member, friend, or someone you work with? You didn't make a mistake. Yes it's going to be awkward (to say the least), but it may be the best thing when you look back. Maybe this therapist can actually help you get out. Keep going, you are definitely worth it. Normal parents don't swear at their kids and tell them things like they don't have the balls to kill themselves. (I would've said, "Um, I have ovaries." But that's just smartass me.) Mental abuse for years is not ever acceptable. You are too nice & need to get tf out. Don't worry about them anymore. To Thyself be True.

I would love to know the cost to society of all the fires caused by smokers. I’m sure it’s horrific.

Good luck, man! I hope she comes back in a week or two and you two can hit it off

I guess you can call it a "fuck up" but a good/wholesome one at that. I wouldn't be mad and would be stoked you were my neighbor