congratulations Alex! all the best!

The century old trick of a cheater.

i fucking love rude and mean people and I will be your friend.

Right! It’s a hotel not a hospital. He’s not protected by some weird front desk HIPPA.

Congratulations OP sometimes our screw ups will lead to some of the greatest things in our lives

My boyfriend would like to know - how tf did you think you would get away w this?!? Piss in a mattress ain’t coming out easy

Depends on how it was handled the next day:

'I'm truly sorry, I realize I have issues and you won't see me take another drink ever' =A friend you can keep

'ah, get over it, I was just drunk, c'mon' = not someone I need to stay friends with.

If a random man ran up and pissed on your leg, is that not assault? Nothing’s wrong because it’s just piss?

If you do a sexual act (satisfying your foot fetish) without permission, that is assault.

Let me preface this by saying it's easy to give tough advice to strangers on Reddit. What follows is severe but worth considering.

The best apology here is going to AA. Because this is a massive warning sign right here. Booze:

-Caused you to do things you didn't want to do

-Caused you to harm someone (emotionally, but still)

-Made life difficult for the people close to you

Seriously, you need to never drink again if you want friends you can keep. Because your friends might stand by sober you if they know that drunk you is never gonna turn up again.

That was what I was going to say. The husband saying I can't leave my wife She has terminal cancer. But when she croaks it's you and me baby!

May not be the time but I'm also an earthbound misfit, tongue-tied, twisted

Honestly I have yet to hear of a situation where the person getting cheated on didn't deserve to know. I mean, there's some truly heinous offenses going on here.

Some definitions, first:

Cheater- the one going outside the relationship

Cheatee- the one in the relationship who is being faithful

Accessory - the one commiting the cheating with the cheater, a.k.a the 'side piece'.

1. The cheater is letting the cheatee build their whole life on promises that the cheater knows they aren't keeping. Like, what happens when the cheatee buys a house with the cheater? Or decides to start a family? Keeping someone from the truth in such huge matters is evil.

2. The cheater is wasting the cheatee's time. You can get more money, find new friends, move to a new town. But you can never take back the time you give a person. When you cheat you take away the entire relationship from the other person. All that time, ruined by selfish choices. The woman in this story whose husband of 40 years is screwing around - even though it's not true, how could she keep herself from feeling that her life was wasted, loving a man who chose not to love her back? The cheater in this case just took a lifetime of memories, and poisoned those memories with doubt and resentment.

People who cheat on their partners are selfish cowards. You want to bang someone else? Fine. Break up, get a divorce, pay the price that ending a relationship demands. Own up to the fact that you don't want to keep your promises anymore. My dad told me one thing when I started dating: 'Break her heart if you must, but don't waste her time. If she's gonna have to get over you, the best thing you can do is let her start getting over you right away.'

Edit:typo

shit like this is why I call out the day before if I start feeling sick, including text messages my boss, and tell them if I feel better in the morning I'll make it in otherwise, don't expect me.

anytime they say text messages are not 'legitimate' way to call out, I just be like well it's documented that I sent it, and you reach out to me via text give me instructions so..

no ones taking the bait 😭😭

this is peak reddit; pack it up boys, we're making it out the hood tonight

Think about sand in a glass of water, with enough time it settles to the bottom and you forget it’s there, and the water is clear

but if u shake the glass then it becomes just as dirty as it once was

If u can convince your friends to give you another chance then eventually things can settle but if you screw up again it’ll be worse

If you are unclear on your trigger, and one too many turns you into a different person, you probably shouldn’t be drinking at all.

Someone else said it, but a sincere apology with what you will be doing different to not have it happen again, and following that plan could help with these friends.

I know a Tom. He was my first friend on MySpace.

Okay, Pee Pee the Clown.

He probably wants to sue for what his cheating ass is no longer entitled too, serves him right for being a slime bag.

The last thing I would want on my deathbed, is to unknowingly leave all my stuff to a cheating piece of shit, atleast this woman can die with some dignity knowing the truth and diverting whatever she has left to the people who actually care about her.

I’d consider therapy just for urself regardless of how the friendship goes. Sounds like u have some stuff to work through and that’s normal and acceptable as long as ur willing to take steps to better urself for urself

I would say give it a while to rest and then try to reconcile. Not just with an apology but with concrete actions what you will do to prevent it in the future. I always advice people to set boundaries, your friend just did. It's going to suck going back. They don't owe you, but that doesn't mean they might be open for another chance.

I do feel for you, I am struggling with some mental stuff and hooch too. I always internalize and acting out is just not in my system. This is no brag, I just wouldn't want to imagine the pain losing your friends would be.

You said you are already in therapy, I hope this is a topic you can discuss. Because this hurts. I hope you can take a detour from alcohol, its clearly not bringing out your best side. It rarely does with anyone. Keep working on it and talking about it.

Congratulations!

Ohhhhh! Jeff R Tom Thomas! He wrote The Green Mile, right?

My daughter has a cat who was very anxious as a kitten too. Interestingly she is now 6 and has started sneaking out the door. I wonder why she has got braver now.