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I_eat_sand_everyday t1_ixyw8vy wrote

Idk if this will make you feel better but one time I had to pee so bad that I didn’t have time to cover the seat in a public bathroom so I just sat down before realizing somebody had left piss all over the seat and I just sat in a puddle of a strangers cold piss

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virstultus t1_ixyw63f wrote

There's a few sentences from your original post that you should show your therapist. It starts with "I'm glad I kept myself distance from them". You might be self sabotaging.

Talk to the therapist about attachment theory if they're into that. It helps me figure out what my emotions are making me do sometimes when my own responses confuse me.

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PassionsBite t1_ixyvt6p wrote

You didn't break her trust. There is no way to trust that a person won't love you. Thoughts are not actions. You acted exactly as she expected, as a friend would. You can love a friend extremely dearly without being in love with them. Love doesn't require romance. Be steadfast in your friendship. If you want to pursue and decide to, drop some hints and see if she picks them up. If she doesn't, accept it's not a romantic sort of love. That doesnt make it a love any less important or worthy.

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Tuga_Lissabon t1_ixyvdlh wrote

OP, some people become really evil when they drink. That's you. Don't drink, you'll hurt and push away friends and family as you've been doing.

And it can and will affect things permanently.

Drunks get some excuse, but depending on what is said, some things can't be unsaid and even drink won't excuse it - because people will know that that's in your mind, and expect you were just hiding it before and drink just brought it up.

I'm sorry for you. Hope you can control it and rebuild friendships.

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