If your girlfriend cheats on you with your best friend neither of them were either.

People like you are the reason why Suicide rates are so high amongst men! Never taking a man’s feelings seriously and telling them to “man up”… homie got betrayed by not only the girl he loved and formed a bond with but by his best friend as well! That’s rough

I had a pretty similar situation, however it can't be called cheating in my case, everything was .

I needed 1.5 years to get through everything completely (we were dating 2 years), but I did not break contracts with them, even though I wanted for a while, I just realised it would get even worse if I did that. I had quite a few issues in my life and that was one of them. At the end I just realised I wouldn't be able to live my whole life with that girl anyway, we were really different and argued quite a bit as well. I said fuck it, drew a diagram what I want to achieve in this life and turns out I can live without a girl because I have a lot of stuff that I have to do to improve myself and that I can achieve solely by myself. Finding a girl for a lifetime is a lottery anyways, so I don't worry about not winning one in a while. As they say, what belongs to you will not go away. Several times later I'm happier than ever because I finally achieved something in this life and it would never happen if we never broke up, for example met a lot of new people from different countries and travelled quite a bit.

OP, it's just a bitch and an asshole, what did you lose? Consistent sex access and a person that turns out you could never trust again? It's not worth wiping your life out because of that, the world is full of great people that you will find in the future, you are only 20. Let this be the lowest point of your life, it always goes like a spiral and everything that happens happens for the best. Just believe in yourself and move on, we do not live in a fairy tale. Think about yourself primarily, and always be independent. That way you will move on much easier if someone betrays you. Cheating is a betrayal and for me personally is an instant goodbye forever.

Can never understand people like P, what does he expect is going to happen, a happy ever after?

He's in for a heartbreak just like OP, except perhaps not as severe

Damn. I wish you well. Stay in therapy.

But these people are fucked up and not your friends.

I would advise to be more strict and not ignore the red flags but address them as soon as you encounter them in order to not let them pile up and let people take more advantage of you in the future.

The male friends and you not allowed to have female friends was already a 'nope'. But it's hard to see clearly when feelings are in play.

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Yeah, this right here. Cheating is a horrible thing to do to someone, I don't condone it in the slightest but it's certainly not an offense worthy of death

>the suicide attempts and self harm over a breakup point to bigger issues

Not to mention the driving thing, which is utterly insane.

"All the time I hoped we would crash and all die. For some inexplicable reason, we actually survived the trip even though I did come close to slipping off the road on more than one occasion. I can still remember them both. The fear in their eyes and how they wouldn't dare to say a thing. How they'd cling to the seats and the door. "

This is just so so so messed up, especially how very few people seem to take issue with it in the comments. He explicitly says he was hoping they'd all die; he was ready to kill two people over an affair. "Bigger issues" seems like an understatement the size of Montana (which, from what I know of US geography, isn't small)

Bro...... imma be honest........... I don't think she was sleep and there was deff dick in her

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Stay strong brother your friend will always have to watch his back with her she is a pos

Jesus Christ what a dumbass. OP you are a nutcase. You held two people hostage in a car driving 150. I hope you do a lot of growing up and self reflection before you jump into another relationship. And have some self respect for god's sake, you never should've tolerated their shitty behavior.

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Seriously! It's kinda creepy how many people are co soloing op when he did shitty things too. As well as slut shaming the exs friend.

That P guy is doomed for life knowing that J whore of a woman is gonna fuck with him too someday.

You my friend, should know that these whores they come and go all you gotta do is know yourself. No one is your friend. Fuck them bitches. Stay true to the only one who matters, yourself.

Fuck.

You have so much strength to not kick his teeth in for I know I wouldn't. You will pull through this and you don't need such toxic people in your life, I wish I could give you a hug right now and tell you everything will be ok.

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Ah dude, you need to know that you didn’t know any better when you started dating this person. Trust me when I say this, you’re so much better off without either of them. You should never date a girl who broke up with her bf for you. She’ll most likely end up doing the same to you or be completely possessive. You need to focus on yourself and loving yourself. You don’t need another relationship just yet.

did you mean tifu by almost murder/suiciding me and my friends?

>I felt bad but not bad enough to go snitch on myself.

What does this even mean you little shit. Grow the fuck up and get that poor woman her job back

So? How do you feel now ?

I don't think you know what dodged a bullet means. Because if he was admitted to psych ward multiple times with multiple suicide attempts and a probably ruined school life then he didn't dodge anything. He got hit by multiple trucks.

Oof. That's hard. I'm sorry for you...

Honestly, you dodged a bullet there. Chances are down the road, your ex-gf will show her true colours. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Your ex-best friend will have to deal with her BS in the future. Even worse if they got married. You should break all contact now and avoid and decline any contact in the future, especially for reconciliation. You must be firm with your boundaries and principles. A man without boundaries and principles is not a man, he is a whimp. Always keep that in mind.

Also, you should try some reality check for yourself and learn to spot some red flags and how to deal with them like a man. This YouTube channel has tons of tips and real-life horror stories. I totally recommend you take a look at it.

https://youtube.com/@StrongSuccessfulMale