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HeadWolf69 t1_iy56td4 wrote

I’m confused, your therapist talks about her partner “a lot” in therapy?

Isn’t that the real FU?

Therapy is about YOU, and your life. I don’t think that in 20 years of on and off therapy, I had a therapist explicitly mention partners, even though I have done so much unloading about MY relationships. Never anything more than wedding rings, maybe family picture on the desk.

If you hear a lot of her talking about her life on the clock, that’s not really professional on her part. I know it’s friendly but the therapist is not your friend.

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Ant70 t1_iy53o6o wrote

Reply to comment by orio-s in TIFU by hanging out with my ex. by orio-s

He’s just keeping his options open, he’s using you as a back up….keep you on the shelf ready to go in case he needs you. Ex’s being friends only works if the romantic part is dead and buried, you still have feelings so you are just going to get hurt.

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marswarrior462 OP t1_iy520hl wrote

I did see a counseler and we’ve been working on ways to make sure that I never make mistakes like that again. To be fair, I’ve had a pretty rough year and I do have anger issues from time to time, but that fuck up with the knife was a waking call for me to work on improving my emotional and mental well-being to prevent shit like this from ever happening again. I wasn’t suicidal, I just had a pretty short explosive fuse and it has led to previous fuck ups I regret. Now I’m cautious about even giving into my anger and I dread getting super pissed because that’s when I become the most reckless

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a22x2 t1_iy51tix wrote

Maybe this is unusual - I’m still in touch with an ex’s family and have even been to their thanksgivings, even in periods where my friendship with my ex was in a rocky place lol. They’re just awesome people and I genuinely like them. Not once in the 7-8 years since we’ve broken up have they mentioned anything about the possibility of us getting back together, or wishing we would, or anything like that. It can happen! But maybe not often lol.

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