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vampiratemirajah t1_iy5jd0j wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU by forgetting my wife is mostly infertile by [deleted]

Most women grow up believing their purpose is child-raising and family-making. Even if she wasn't indoctrinated like the rest of us, it's definitely a sore spot for a lot of us as we get older. Please, please be genuine in your apology attempt. This isn't like accidentally scratching her car when you borrowed it, you've essentially repeated something negative she's likely been hearing for a long time.

It's really hard not to internalize fertility issues.

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Plenty_Intention1991 t1_iy5htsz wrote

Reply to comment by Harry_Gorilla in TIFU by saying 'Men are born drivers' infront of my two senior female co-workers. TL;DR by ioncarelol

But every statement of opinion is inherently two sided don’t you think? By saying that you are in favor of anything you’re also saying that you aren’t necessarily in favor of something else. For example if you loved every flavor of ice cream then you’re unlikely to say unprompted that you like rocky road ice cream. Because there would be no point in singling out that flavor if you thought they were all equal. Just like if you thought all humans were born with an innate ability to drive then you wouldn’t specify men. I understand that in this case he was just using a saying that he’s probably heard somewhere but if someone hasn’t heard that saying before then they might be looking at it from a different perspective and to them it sounds biased or prejudicial.

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vampiratemirajah t1_iy5hmvx wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU by forgetting my wife is mostly infertile by [deleted]

She's never going to forget what you've said. Your apology might resonate at some point, but it'll never mean much to her. And it certainly won't take away the power of what you've said to her.

Honestly, it seems as though there might be a little resentment toward her about this, counseling would be my first approach for sure.

But yeah, idk if anything you can say/do will fix this, unfortunately. Is there a word for the feminine equivalent to being immasculated by your partner? Her self esteem is likely taking a massive hit rn, she needs to be reminded how much she means to you.

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BreDenny t1_iy5hewb wrote

Reply to TIFU by cutting myself with a paring knife by marswarrior462

OP I hope you’re doing okay, mentally. I know life is rough, especially around the holidays, but you’re gonna make it ❤️ I hope you have somebody you can talk to and maybe get some of those emotions out in a more healthy way.

And remember, it won’t be forever! I know progress on your injury seems slow, but it’ll be no time before you can return to your previous level of activity. It sounds like it will probably scar, though, and I’m sorry for that. If you ever need somebody to talk to you can reach out to me, I know that means little from a stranger but everyone needs someone. Please don’t hurt yourself. Stay safe

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Oahkery t1_iy5fg8v wrote

Reply to comment by Booskop89 in TIFU by not impulsively spending $135 by MortenaSmithF432

To someone who is apparently regularly buying merch, albums and tickets for multiple artists and who has alerts set up to be notified as soon as they go on sale, not to mention who was already completely willing to spend the money but was just waiting, $135 isn't very much. Use context clues. The discussion is about this specific situation.

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fabledlamb t1_iy5fepy wrote

Reply to TIFU by forgetting my wife is mostly infertile by [deleted]

> she asked about what we do on a daily basis that is uniting.

> I said “most couples at 20 years have kids they’re wrangling”

> she is basically infertile due to PCOS

> I tried to backpedal. “I don’t blame you.”

Do you really not?

Because I think you do, and I think you brought it up when challenged to hit her back where it hurts.

Because that was a pretty cruel thing to say.

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coupl4nd t1_iy5erqh wrote

Reply to TIFU by probably outing a colleague by anonloserdude

Don't write to HR go and speak to him and say you're sorry. If you're genuine about it he probably won't be super offended. And if he is you have said sorry and there isn't a lot else you can do apart from learn from it.

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