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BeAwaretv t1_iy5u456 wrote

Look up borderline personality disorder. This behavior seems to match it almost perfectly. You're only 14, there will be other girls and other situations like this in the future and if you don't get a good grip on your emotions early, itll lead to a life of repeat situations where it seems like you always fuck things up because you're afraid of being alone. It sucks because it'll feel like you're alone, strictly because you're afraid of being alone.

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Naturist02 t1_iy5qn1y wrote

This happened to me 20 years ago. I was sterile. Wife told her entire family that I was THE PROBLEM. She literally told her family that I was a biologically defective person.
She shamed me, asking herself out loud how she could have married a REJECT. THEN, I got to experience the shame of her telling her entire family. Like WTF. None of their F Business !!!

Been there. My only job in life I wanted to be able to have a child and fate decided for me.
She picked a book of sperm donors and told me to pick some guy that looked like ME that was smart. I have never felt so LOW in all of my life.
After the child was born she had this amazing bond with “our” child and has always pushed this hidden to him, this animosity towards me. Now it’s like I’m a third wheel. She and him make fun of me. Life did not turn out like I thought it was going to.

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Radiant_555 t1_iy5qbro wrote

I really don’t think you F’d anything up, OP. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything with a evil intent. You are joking around making yourself comfortable and trying to have a good time with those around you. Maybe she has some sort of insecurity about you with potentially other girls?

The lesson in your situation is pretty simple. Why would you want to alter or “hide” who you are daily just to fulfill this “image” your partner wants from you? Not a very genuine relationship if you ask me. This is a person you truly love? When they can’t love who you genuinely are? Hmm…

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anonloserdude OP t1_iy5o6mp wrote

I was more contacting HR to get his work contact info, but didn't know how to explain the situation or what I could say. It kind of became an apology to him directly rather then a request for his info. But I will just figure out his info and contact him individually.

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TheCombatLegend t1_iy5noyk wrote

How the f*ck did you come to the conclusion that slitting your arm open and almost bleeding to death would help in any way in any situation?! I don't understand what the two things have to do with eachother? In my mind it's like you're having a bad day maybe (2/10) then you decide to make it a (-1000000/10) cause you don't like a 2/10

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missannthrope1 t1_iy5mpmw wrote

Last time I checked, everyone makes mistakes. If you didn't feel bad about it, you'd be a psychopath. You will never do it again, and council others to never make the same mistake. That makes you a teacher.

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BreDenny t1_iy5lzm5 wrote

I’m glad to hear that. I’ve known several friends that had hurt themself often and almost accidentally killed theirselves several times. Hopefully you can find someone that can help you get through this rough patch in your life.

Also, I’m sorry about your friend. I’ve had the same thing happen to me and it’s so hard to recover from, socially and mentally. I’m still working through mental issues from it and it’s almost been ten years. I wish I had better tips to help you, but my coping mechanisms have pretty much all been unhealthy

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Jonodonozym t1_iy5l3uj wrote

This is terrible management practice. Nothing's stopping the next cameraman from making the same mistake, meanwhile OP is clearly remorseful and will be extra cautious about checking the recording in the future.

A better solution might be attaching a big hard-to-miss LED(s) to the back of the camera that lights up when recording.

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Sezblue148 t1_iy5kc2u wrote

Why are you writing a letter to HR? Go to the guy and speak to him, if he is offended it can probably all be resolved with a genuine apologie. If he's not offended then at least you know and you can chill out.

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