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Lee2026 t1_iy6ce7g wrote

I wouldn’t reach out to HR, I’d reach out to him. Explain what you’ve explained here and go from there. There’s no way to tell how he will react but the important thing is that you try and work this out with him directly. HR doesn’t need to get involved unless he wants them too

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brianmkl t1_iy6bvd8 wrote

> requires at least $300 and 3 days in the shop, right?

to be fair if it costs only 300$ it was very likely something simple, 300$ may cover as little as 1 hour of tech time plus parts in most states.

Try watching a few videos of Rainman Ray's Repairs in youtube and you may learn how to fix a lot of simple stuff in most cars.

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Phighters t1_iy68rv1 wrote

Don't email HR, email him, or better yet, call him. He seemed to take it in stride, but even so the gesture will go a long way.

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If you knew he was gay but didn't know his name (suggesting you two didn't have some intimate relationship where he would disclose that to you), then you probably didn't out him.

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farrenkm t1_iy63bzh wrote

I agree with the others here. Talk to your colleague.

You say alcohol isn't an excuse, but you wouldn't have said it if you weren't drunk. And you weren't the only one drunk there.

The fact you knew he was gay makes me wonder if it wasn't a secret, that at least some of your colleagues already knew. How did you find out?

And he laughed it off. Is he the kind of guy to laugh things off like this? If so, he's probably okay with it. Some people are just easygoing and wouldn't give this another thought.

Talk to your colleague. If you self-report to HR, almost guaranteed they're going to start an investigation that will likely end up in some form of disciplinary action.

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Papalazarou79 t1_iy62txi wrote

C'mon... You're 14... You've learned not be a dick. It's a good thing you are aware of your behavior now. But that's what you do in your teens. You fuck up and then realize you fucked up.

Now comes the part where you move on, lesson learned and remind it! And from now on, do keep your hands to yourself!

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zoronoa24 t1_iy61nfx wrote

Control your emotions, don't let them control you. Break life down into moments, every moment you make choices, and every choice you make tells you who you are. Most of the choices we make are the ones we see others make in similar situations or whenever they feel a similar emotions. Ask yourself what kind of person do you want to be, and how would this person act?

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toooldforreddit48 t1_iy5z40m wrote

I work in event production and it’s happened so many times that the session was supposed to be recorded from the desk and the operator screwed up and never recorded it. And only because the camera guys pressed record that we were able to go back and patch together the footage from them.

This stuff happens dude. Especially in live events. They should have had a backup hyperdeck recorder if it was so important.

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archangelzeriel t1_iy5z3mc wrote

Counterpoint: I have an instinctive distrust of anybody who isn't good friends with at least one of their exes.

Are you going to tell me that you liked this person enough to date them but that in every single instance whatever caused you to stop being romantic also caused you to never want to talk to them again? Sounds like a red flag to me, dawg.

Dude's mom is entirely in the wrong here, mind you. In that situation I have been known to deliver a pointed "Mom, we are done, we are FRIENDS".

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