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KhadaFeathers t1_iy8uymh wrote

> I didn’t know whether I should stay and put in more effort or if it should just be over

More effort? You went on a date with 6 different guys you've met on Bumble instead of trying to communicate with him. The only effort you made is make him feel that eventually you'll leave so he shouldn't get used to the relationship, and surprise, he didn't. You need to talk to him and clear things up, he can't read your mind. Communication is the most important thing on relationships, and you both need to work together to improve in that aspect.

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Dream_Weeba t1_iy8j11t wrote

Dude my girlfriend's mom still invites her ex husband to Thanksgiving and Christmas. He's never showed, but I had to pull her aside, because it's clearly upsetting my girlfriend. I don't know why parents try to do this, like what planet are you living on?

When I become the ex, I cut all ties. No family, no friends we share, no alone time with them. It just makes things awkward, and causes pain to everyone involved. On top of that, I don't want to see any of them anyway.

Cut ties with him, you'll feel 100% better being free to pursue someone that actually cares about you.

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farts_n_darts t1_iy8hieh wrote

As a straight lady, I adore the guys- but to be perfectly honest when it comes to relationships and making a move they tend to either be waaay aggressive or waaay shy. Few in my personal experience ever get it "right" or "perfect" regarding timing. You may just need to actually TELL this guy how you feel.

Communication is super important to any relationship and it sounds like you guys have done very little, on this subject, each waiting for the other to make a move.

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