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Marrsvolta t1_iy9u05l wrote

No 26 year old, especially one who has a child and was married in the past, should be getting 17 year old girls numbers. What a creep. You should tell your mom.

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GirlsAndChemicals t1_iy9tlyw wrote

I see your thought process and understand why you didn't think of it as cheating, but the issue is that you were having concerns about your relationship and rather than addressing those concerns with your partner you started looking around elsewhere on your own. You weren't acting as part of a team, like you would in a relationship with another person with whom you wanted to build mutual trust. You were acting on your own, your thought process was your own, the issues you were having in the relationship were your own. You weren't coming from a place of being really in a relationship and committed to giving it a real shot, you were coming from a place of trying to just sort it out on your own and testing out other options without even letting him know there was an issue to be addressed. That's what makes it cheating. You'd already disconnected yourself from him before you even went on the dates.

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Fun-Pea-880 t1_iy9imoa wrote

Maybe honesty is the best answer, and tell him you are 15 and you are not interested in him. What's the worst he can do slut shame you at work? That should get him fired in most jobs in America, if not all.

It's not like you did anything w/ him anyway, based on the post. So you have nothing to feel ashamed about except lying about your age.

Lots of people lie about their age.

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skeptic_slothtopus t1_iy9i6dk wrote

Please tell a trusted adult. You are too young to handle this situation on your own and it is not your fault. He is preying on your youth and naivete. You need to tell the whole story, that he knew who your mom was without you telling him, that you think the beach incident was planned. Please protect yourself OP

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pogiguy2020 t1_iy9hu1e wrote

If he is a smart man he will keep hands off since it can land him in jail or worse.

You want to know how to keep him from working with your mom? Tell your mom about him. LOL

You are 15 stop trying to be older and enjoy being young.

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Glittering-Hurricane t1_iy9ahkb wrote

Same. I've had to go to the doctor to have my ears washed at least once per year since I was a little kid. It used to scare me so much. But the feeling of suddenly being able to hear every tiny little sound again was wonderful every time, and the first time I remember thinking "did clothes really make this much noise when I moved?"

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Fairyhaven13 t1_iy99gg4 wrote

That's not the case for everyone. My ears produce an overabundance of wax and I either have to use professional ear cleaning kits or get them flushed by doctors regularly. I used an earspoon for the first time a few weeks ago (gently!) and pulled out a centimeter of wax. It was like my ears turned the volume up.

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Lord_Jefe t1_iy94lja wrote

I did the same, so after a few months, I tried naïr, which was more painful. Go to google & find nail & waxing salons, call them & ask if they take males & how much is it. And if you’re afraid you’ll get an erection, the esthetician will not only be used to it, but appreciate it as it makes it easier to wax the weeds climbing the tree.

I did it for around 2 years. It hurts less than the nair, or sweating on your sack with an open cut. I only stopped due to the $.

And before anyone cracks jokes about “The 40 Year Old Virgin” the only thing I ever had pain while waxing was my back, & it hurt too bad to continue. The bald professor & his 2 grad students hurt far less. Also - get your crack done too. It makes wiping your ass after pooping effortless.

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anonloserdude OP t1_iy93av7 wrote

Thanks for all of the kind words folks! I called him today and explained myself and apologised. He laughed, which is definitely what I hoped for! He'd said he hadn't take offense and that he'd not even given it a second thought.

Huge wave of relief, but still a lesson learnt and not something that'll happen again!

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