Check, check, and check

God damn bro learn to be a better person, your poor gf

I was so sick one time I dreamed I called in to work, but when I went in for my next shift (this was the day before my days off) found out I had not, in fact, called in.

But I could ruin our friendship, his marriage, and what if she claims I raped her. I’m fucking terrified

I love dude wipes

I’d like to escort you to a party if you’re not busy this weekend

ikr, fellas does it make me a weakling to gloss over abusive behavior

Your girlfriend went through a traumatic experience, and then you more or less physically and emotionally abused her. Doing shit like that, and then apologizing, is the restart of the abuse cycle.

And if you can’t control yourself and your actions over something she went through, how are you going to act if she ever gets pregnant, and towards children?

If you love her, then you need to get yourself together or get therapy.

rip

Dude this is not r/AmITheAsshole.

Great opening statement for someone defending abuse.

Love how people are hating... Glad none of them have ever lost their temper or patience... Anyway, I hope it works out. Sometimes shit gets crazy or out of hand in the heat of the moment, but as long as you both work through it and acknowledge the wrongdoing, it can be forgiven and forgotten.

If you are physically abusive, that's a different story altogether because you'd leave marks, bruises, welts, etc. That's NOT ok! What you two need is to draw clear boundaries to prevent it from happening or getting close to it, or ever getting worse!

Hope she says no to your proposal

Tell your friend ASAP! Waiting is just going to make it worse. Be honest about how it was a mistake for everyone involved. Alcohol is a bitch.

Well played.

Wow you are an absolute ahole.

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So you gonna watch him raise your kid and fuck your baby momma?

Sure, whatever you say. I can tell OP feels shitty but in the grand scheme of things, he lost his temper and added to her trauma, and one day she will probably realize that. People don’t just forget things like that and I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s just too scared to leave

Bruh thats straight up abusive behaviour. You are not equipped to help her.

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Shut up baby elbow

Thank you for the kind reply… I think I felt the relationship wasn’t solid enough to address concerns very directly… I really didn’t want to make him feel pressured to change for my sake… I thought he would just think I was asking too much and say it’s over… when I’d gently bring something up it didn’t really get much attention or a willingness for action… one reason I questioned how much he even liked me… but maybe because I wasn’t doing a good job of communicating the importance of the issues to him.

As she gets stronger, she's going to realize you're a dick and she will leave you

this would prompt me to break up with you. Don’t count on marriage lol