No he’s not ok with it and his friends partners are also my friends

So is he ok with his friends cheating on their partners? You should tell their partners

You have a very different definition of trust than non lunatics

So, you pretend hat you trust your person, yet do literally everything that sows you don't.

For your sake, don't.

I’ll make another post on how it went !

Get off reddit and talk to your partner.

I've been in this exact position a couple times now.

I just closed the open windows.

Somehow I don't think you even limited yourself to what was already open in a window however.

You violated his privacy and trust. This isn’t quite as bad as cheating but it’s up there with that level of breach. Trust takes a long time to earn, but it can be lost in a second.

bad comparison but ok lol

They were all open, tell me you wouldn’t snoop.. just a little bit?

Because they aren't your messages and photos. Those are his.

How would you feel if he went though your closet and threw out clothes that you'd worn when you were with people he didn't approve of. Like gossipers or your friend who he thinks wear too much makeup.

Ok I’ll stop being scary.

You’re right. I’ll talk to him about it thanks :)

Wow.

If I was him and found out about this, I'd dump you in a heart beat.

The files are unimportant, but the fact that you'd go digging through his files, contacts, messages, social media..... Jfc

As a general rule if it’s not your computer you don’t change things without asking if it’s okay. General rule of most things you borrow really. As a side note you scare me. Please stop.

It's bad because you went searching for something you didn't want to find. Instead of talking openly and truthfully about what you found and how it made you feel, you deleted everything in what honesty sounds like a destructive spiral.

Based solely on this single post it seems like you don't trust your partner and after this post there is little reason for them to trust you in the future.

How would you feel if he went into your social media and deleted everyone that he thought you shouldn't be talking to? I'm pretty sure you'd be pretty pissed off if you found out. Frankly you have abused his trust and should probably tell him what you did before he discovers it. This actually is a pretty serious fuck up, especially assuming that you are in a happy and healthy relationship which includes trusting your partner.

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Happy cake day and thank u

Get help.

Not only do you actually not trust your fiance, you have acted on that distrust via a highly invasive method and justified it.

You need to come clean to him now, and seek help. You're quite far along with your distrust to do all this without batting an eye.

Why is it bad to delete them? I’m just wondering. Since I’m using his laptop, I don’t want to look at them

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I agree

It's good that you acknowledge your actions came from a place of personal insecurity, however if you do believe you have mutual trust with your partner you should talk about what you did.