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This is the most wholesome TIFU I have ever read! I don't think anybody in the office would be mad at that

Just put some playboy mags underneath your bed, that would do the trick. Or just come out, better to be open than to hide for eternity.

How did you fuck up? These are things completely out of your control and you are doing great handling and fighting this stressful situations, I believe our averageJoe would’ve just gone out and left everything sort itself somehow lol

The TIFU was committing a low key version of embezzling from you SO. As a SAHP, you should have access to your own money - you are taking on a role that would cost money if you didn't do it (A LOT!!!) - he just happens to be doing the role that brings in the money. However, that really should be a mutually agreed thing (ideally before you quit your job). Your approach probably cost a fair amount in interest - so the deception not only was emotional, but has a real financial cost too.

And you are paying cash advance rates on the credit card just to put money in your savings. That is about the dumbest thing I have heard .

Haha. I’m the dad in this scenario. 17yo kids jerk off. Dads know that. Mom probably jerks your dad off. They also probably knew you might be gay before you did. You will all get over it.

My only concern is who the hell watches 4 hour long porn? WTF?

I'd argue the TYFU was when you hid information about finances. Or felt the need to do that. Typically that means something is wrong somewhere else.

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Also how would moving the account over show the other party all the information on your personal account's transactions?

when you sign in you should only be able to see information for accounts you have access to/are owner of. Do you see your partner's personal account?

If you do then those aren't personal accounts, they are either joint, or have written authorization to disclose the information to the other party.

Wow you really showed me! Men are so smart. Also you followed me into another thread you creepy fucking idiot. Go get a fucking life instead of looking through my profile for fun. I know that’s about the closest interaction you’ll have with a woman all week but please do better

You just made this years Secret Santa even more memorable :)

Simple communication mistake! The real tifu was you missed out on giving Celine, your fav colleague a gift!

Also the best when you get someone you actually like!

That is basically a violation of his privacy. And it’s you saying that you do not trust him at all and that you will always be controlling his life. You won’t be able to hide this and eventually he will get fed up and leave. It is one thing to snoop a bit but it is a whole other thing to read every single message he has because you didn’t just violate his privacy, you violated the privacy of every person he had a conversation with. They won’t trust him because of you now. And then the fact that you started deleting things YOU didn’t like from his computer….. that’s basically a point of no return. If you were my gf/wife, you would be gone out of my life ….

>Part of a successful relationship is opening up to someone and being vulnerable. Sharing those secrets you wouldn’t share with others.

Thank you for pointing that out. This is my first relationship. I'm still learning how to be 100% comfortable sharing parts of me that I don't usually share. I completely agree with you. I want my gf to be in my life for as long as possible, and if I want our love to last long term, then I need to get used to being vulnerable from time to time. I think I'm gonna tell her.

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Still poorly written fiction.

Generally speaking your goal should be to develop coping mechanisms that don't involve substances. I'm not knocking people who use it but I stopped reccomending it as a healthy option for people to treat depression and anxiety, but I'd never tell a teen that it's okay.

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Common experience, weed is really strong now lol. When I started smoking you'd just get a calming buzz, but potency is kinda through the roof on average so some people can take a puff or two and get sent into a panic attack.

Its fuckin dildo how is that beastiality

You didn't 'f up'.

You're now freer than you've ever been. Unintentional as it might have been, the result is you had the bravery (which shouldn't be necessary, it is & should be a non issue, but times are hopefully changing) to be free, confident & honest to ur parents.

And true to yourself.

Sir, you thus dun succeeded!

everyone is different. meds help some people but not all. I've tried countless meds and nothing helps me. marijuana is what helps me. you found what works for you, that's awesome. I'll stick with what works for ne

Just adding to your comment - I personally felt like dying having anxiety attack on weed. Felt like someone was sitting on my chest; wanted to throw up and seen black spots; No regular coping mechanisms worked and i couldnt calm myself down; it was the worst anxiety attack i had in my life and i was struggling with anxiety for years;

I mean sure, there may be people that weed helps, but if you use it for medicinal purposes, you should use it with a guidance of medical professional.

To me as a parent, sounds like your parents are supportive and also want to give you your own space so aren't about to bring it up again the next morning. So kind of awkward but at the root not a huge deal for them?

I'm sure if you aren't up to it they will take the lead at some point and bring it back up. But if you are up to it and want to broach the subject you have the opportunity to kind of set the frame for the conversation where you want it. I.e. less on trying to pin you down on your sexuality and safe sex practices. And maybe more on how they can support you as you continue to figure out and live your life.

Maybe he is and maybe he isn’t. However OP didn’t say anything indicating he’s gay as we shouldn’t assumed that he was lying to his parents. Straight people watch gay porn and gay people watch straight porn, it’s not always an indicator of someone sexuality.

OP, don’t feel pressured. This is your decision to make and you’re right about that. You’re not obligated to share it with your girlfriend. What parts about you that you share, and with whom, is your decision.

That being said.. if you really love your girlfriend and you want a deep relationship with her. If you see that relationship lasting. Part of a successful relationship is opening up to someone and being vulnerable. Sharing those secrets you wouldn’t share with others. This is the whole intimacy “in to me you see” kinda stuff. The difference between roommates and partners/lovers. Is that your partner/lover gets parts of you that no one else does.