Yes I acknowledged the unnamed followers/friends as the core issue - I don’t really get how sharing things with her would enable her to see the content though if she’s been blocked by OP? How is that possible?

I’m not on Insta so I’m concerned about this loophole if blocked people can still see content this way when to my knowledge they shouldn’t be able to - might be worth a message to the help center or something

Social media be wild "I wanna document every piece of my life and publicise it. Except these few/groups of people who are gross/weird if they look at it"

Friends share OPs posts to her. And here is where the real problem lies. Who the fuck goes out of their way to relay someone’s social media??

I’m not sure I quite understand this - how can she see any of your content if you’ve blocked her? People might send her things, but the most she should be able to see is your profile page but almost none of the content.

Has she done anything with the instagram posts that is cause for concern?

I think you might want to take a break from social media and not focus so much on what your ex is doing - just because she viewed your profile doesn’t mean anything nefarious. Personally, with only the information you’ve provided here to judge by, I don’t find this strange or worrying. After breakups people often are curious to see what their exes are up to/how they are doing.

I’d honestly be more concerned that there are people you’re connected to who insist on sharing your content with her despite having been broken up however long. Those people seem to be meddlesome shitstirrers, and the best approach is to give them nothing to work with. Any inkling who in your circle would be doing something like this?

ETA: I see in another comment you’re trying to build up a presence on TikTok - you’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that once you put content out there in the world, what people do with it and how they respond/react to it is going to be entirely out of your control. I worry that given this example with your ex, trying to build a TikTok presence might not be a healthy option for you and your mental health.

I just saw it get deleted I didn't even finish reading it man come on

She wouldn’t have found it without people sending her my posts on Instagram 🤷🏼‍♂️

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Spy on you through the content you post publicly. Right.

Because it’s been happening for months and she refuses to tell me who’s helping her spy on me. She’s completely blocked. She’s going out of her way to check up on what I’m doing. I don’t see how that’s benign.

I did it for a month and I felt great. I’m also just trying to build up an audience for my tiktok and so I need social media for now. It just seems ridiculous that I can mind my own business and this still happens.

So she viewed your account and has done nothing else. Seems relatively benign to me. On social media, you’re always under constant surveillance. Only way to get around that is to delete your account

I fail to see how going scorched earth on her is warranted

I dropped Facebook about 7 years back at this point and I don't have a single urge to create a new one. At lot less drama and shit. Also reddit is superior for memes anyways.

Drop off of social media, for a fixed amount of time. You may be surprised that you are fine, even better off, without it. It is causing you stress. Try it for 3 months.

I didn't even know that was a treatment till now

And the old man would have probably been mistaken for someone of a slightly less than ivory complexion and somehow killed in the crossfire between them and the unarmed driver.

You did the right thing in that situation. The police found it funny but really they were probably just happy it was a false alarm. False alarms are also not a waste of resources as it was not a prank there was genuine reason to believe there was an issue

damn, these kidnappers are getting crafty

No fuck up, you did the right thing you could not have known.

That makes so much sense now. Didn’t think they would’ve handled it that delicately in the US. Probably would’ve sent in a SWAT team.

In the Netherlands, the police here are pretty nice

Where did this happen? Surprised they tracked them down. Last time I called the cops was in reference to a hit and run I was in where the other guy peeled off after I checked on him. Was waiting around for hours before anyone called me back and no one showed up. Even after filing a police report, nothing ever came from it.

Could you pick which initials appear more randomly 😂😂

wow that's fucking hilarious

and good on you, you're good people

Petition to change subreddit name from TIFU (Today I Fucked Up) to SMLFUBIOPAT (Some Time in my Life i fucked up but I'm only posting about it now)?

LBR I give it 10:1 odds that plastic-mummy-man was the highlight of their whole shift and is now a legend at that station/office:

1. Genuinely concerning thing to check on/save somebody (whether their outlook is wildly skewed, most cops on some level likely at least think they're in this to help people).

2. Family is not rude/domestic situation is not actually violent (sounds like they were mostly perturbed/amused themselves).

3. Completely fine and chill old dude wrapped in cellophane and duct tape is FUNNY AS FUCK (especially when you originally thought you were responding to domestic violence/elder abuse, which are both very stressful and usually have no clear OR good outcome).

4. Randos worried about old dude wrapped in cellophane and duct tape is EXTRA FUNNY AS FUCK (but still good they said something when they were worried about it?)

5. Get to tell all the rookies about it for the next 30-40 years "HEY BILL REMEMBER THAT DUDE WRAPPED IN CELLOPHANE AND DUCT TAPE?" "YEAH DUDE THEY THOUGHT THE POOR PLASTIC MUMMY MAN WAS KIDNAPPED THAT WAS THE BEST CALL WE ANSWERED THAT YEAR!"