It’s not your fault. Please don’t be so hard on yourself

You actually did the best thing you could by just being there for her.

I’m sorry you had to go through all of this but I hope things get better in the future, good luck!

You seem like an awesome mom who is taking your kiddo's mental health seriously. Please also take care of yourself!

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I was so worried that this was going to end with the piece of shit molesting her.

You took her to a professional - it's only 7 months, she just needs therapy.

Girl you were groomed as a teen by an abusive predator and were indoctrinated to believe that marriage is more sacred than your own life and health. Good for you getting you and your kids out of there. Have some Grace for yourself. You are getting your daughter the help she needs now and that’s all you can do really. Don’t be afraid to ask whatever community/friends you have for help.

You also posted about making your wife have sex with another man and also takes LSD.

You caught it while she is 8. I won't discuss my experience with parental mental health neglect, but many don't get diagnosed until their 30s or not at all, while their parents gaslight them and pretend/"forget" anything trauma-related ever happened. You will never be perfect, but you can maintain your vigilance.

Is there such a thing as public sort of throwaway accounts that get traded from person to person as needed?

> she is a very good driver and has only had five accidents in the last three years.

Lol

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Don't forget the third birthday photo in 1999 that is clearly a photo of a lady in there late teens or early 20s.

This is so much NOT a fuck up on your part. As a parent I know we feel we are responsible for what our kids experience but, man, if you take a moment and ask her therapists about this I’m sure they will let you know that the mysteries of biology will trump experience in almost all cases.

Don’t forget to care for yourself. You know you need to be mentally healthy for your kids so do not feel you are selfish if you need to arrange for self-care time.

I’m glad you posted and wish you and your family well.

Come back some time and let us know of the great milestones you‘ve shepherded your kids though.

Take care!

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I hope this isn't true. But I gotta say buddy, 5 car wrecks in 3 years doesn't make her a good driver

There's definitely some shitposting happening here. I mean, just by post history you were 38 10 months ago when your wife asked you if she could have sex with Criss Angel, but 9 months ago you were 46 asking about meeting women in Las Vegas. Maybe lay off the acid and shrooms for a bit?

Well, since this isn't real, you're an idiot, your wife is an idiot, and we're all better off without another one of your two in the world.

Definitely, at the start it happened today, and then it’s a few days later.

Maybe she was pregnant most of those 3 years

Probably the dumbest shit I've ever read, can't believe people are entertaining this heap of shit

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5 accidents in 3 years? That’s a lot.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Is not your fault, neither your wife's, she was fine to drive as an adult and she had an accident, don't blame yourself, it shouldn't suppose to happen, but sadly it did. It was an accident that you both had

Sooooo pregnancy doesn't make someone lose control of their car...

Smells like shit post to me.

You did what you could do, and now you're doing better, yay! You are getting her what she needs now. And she is feeling secure enough to express her needs too, so that's also a good sign of what you're doing.

On the adhd/oppositional defiance thing - on of my children has adhd. And when it's not treated, he gets stressed and then the stress causes lashing out. But when it's treated, he still dislikes authority but he can deal appropriately with it. It was a journey getting there but he did and you will too!

Take heart, the journey isn't always smooth but you have love and you're doing a good as you can do.

Holy shit, that’s absolutely terrible.

Don’t let her blame herself for what happened, and definitely do not blame yourself. You guys will get yhrough this.