Recent comments in /f/tifu

No-Hippo5631 t1_izkqd4j wrote

Reply to comment by UltraComfort in TIFU by mistaking my autogynephilia for gender dysphoria by WonTaPooSee

How is it debunked though if people legitimately experience it? And isn't it possible that someone can be both trans AND have this, but also they often don't overlap (meaning a trans person could not have this whatsoever, or a cis person could 100% have this and still be cis?). I mean, I just don't see how we can discredit that something psychological exists (and as ubiquitous as having a fetish, which could literally be anything).

Just because it could have overlap with the experience of being transgender doesn't mean it isn't a distinct thing. I personally have what one could dysphoria about my reproductive organs and honestly want to not have a uterus or breasts, I just have a disdain for traditional gender roles and the idea that I must have babies when I don't want them and body dysmorphia, which have existed within me since I was a preteen, I still very much identify with feminine clothing and femininity and have no interest in being a man.

I guess I don't see why we're discrediting OP's own lived experience.

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No-Hippo5631 t1_izknp30 wrote

Reply to comment by JustAnotherVeggie in TIFU by mistaking my autogynephilia for gender dysphoria by WonTaPooSee

Yeah, that's the thing, autogynophilia shouldn't be used to discredit trans people, BUT people are also telling OP that their fetish doesn't exist, and that sorta invalidates their own lived experience (not to mention that anything that can be a fetish probably is, and I know for a fact that there's people who are sexually aroused by crossdressing while still being cisgender).

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JustAnotherVeggie t1_izkdxia wrote

Reply to comment by Figgy20000 in TIFU by mistaking my autogynephilia for gender dysphoria by WonTaPooSee

So, as a trans person, I feel I can speak on this. Gender identity is still something everyone is trying to figure out. I took a long 6 years for my own research and trying to figure out who I am. No amount of self research can "cure" me but it does help me understand myself.

I've learned I don't identify with any particular gender, but the thought how things make me feel. I don't find clothes or looks to be gendered but, for sociatel reasons, I have to say I do. I'm agender and I choose to display as adrogynous. People have different experiences. Sometimes we need help with second opinions but if OP is cofident with themselves, they don't need anyone telling them anything.

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InevitableStill9391 t1_izk9brl wrote

Reply to TIFU by mistaking my autogynephilia for gender dysphoria by WonTaPooSee

Trans activists get their backs up over people with Autogynephilia as they believe its used as a means to discredit the validity of being transgender. Its kind of ridiculous to say a fetish doesn't exist and invalidate someone elses lived experience simply because you feel your own identify is being questioned by their mere existence. Both transgender people and people with autogynephila can and do exist. People can be experiencing one and mistake it for the other due to the overlap in symptoms and neither one discredits the validity of the other.

Well done OP. I'm glad you figured it out before making any permanent changes to your body you may have later regretted.

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