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BlakeClass t1_j932dwr wrote

Objectively speaking, I could see 27 being a weird age for girls. You may be getting unjustly filtered out. 27 could be seen as too old for the college or just out of college crowd, but also seen as too young for the mid 30’s guy who’s never been married and finally ready to settle down.

Don’t internalize it, but number wise, who does 27 appeal to? It may have nothing to do with you but more to do with search filters.

Again, I’m just providing insight since you asked. I’m sure you’re a lovely person, and I remember how confusing OLD was (I met my wife there), and I know I would have appreciated honest answers.

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Where_is_it_going t1_j93luhd wrote

I agree with this entirely. I remember being single at 28 after a 7 year relationship. I was so awkwardly aged for everyone. People in their early 20s saw me as old, people in their 30s saw me as too young for anything serious. People my own age where I lived were often grad students with little life experiences because all they'd done at that point was being in school, and we had nothing in common. I legitimately had a 22 year old call me a puma because I was like a "young cougar" at 28. I did not enjoy dating and often felt bad about myself.

In my 30s now and things are much better. 30-40 things even out a lot more, there are less extreme differences in lifestyle and maturity in this age range, so 30/39 is totally reasonable whereas 20/29 would have been a lot more weird.

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BlakeClass t1_j940u4y wrote

Yea this is the exact scenario I’m thinking in my head. Young guys want to party and think she’s trying to get married, old guys want to settle down and not experience hangovers, and think she wants to party. Guys her own age are probably either in relationships or lack the same life experience because they’ve been focused on grad school or work.

I’d probably flat out put “young at heart and still ready to party” or “ready to avoid hangovers and find my partner” based on her goals. Atleast that would broaden her appeal to the target audience.

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