He is not a really good guy. Who cares what you identify at here, you are 16, does he know this?

You should tell him. Letting him build himself for you just to break him later is worse. The truth may be a setback now but he can begin healing at least.

Unless being flirty and messing with others is something you both are ok with though, your relationship may be over.

I'm sorry that you messed up this bad, and I hope you can grow from it.

I can't read that description nor do I know what a rat looks like.

Death is the end goal

Not mine.

Folks I have to come clean. I am blind. Like, completely blind. I can't see anything, not even like shadows. I have been just guessing these 25 years. Every step I took, every time I waved back at a stranger at a distance; whenever I played videogames. All guesses. I can't read or write, I am simply mashing away at different parts my phone right now. I do not know what reddit is, me typing all of these words is simply coincidence.

I know this might come as a shock to many of you who know me to be a woman capable of sight, but it was all a trick. Whenever I had to read, I just guessed. All of my academic achievements were just luck, I just pretended I could read and write and I kept being awarded high grades. I do not know what horses look like.

Yeah this is a joke, the wife's boyfriend made it super clear

We were discussing factors related to societal pressure not everything related to confidence

They are unrelated to this discussion.

Who said anything about bullying? Or appearance?

That is alright, I appreciate the honesty! If it helps in any way, the main issue people are taking with you is that you are implying that op's behavior is a result of the victimization of men from society. I know you aren't defending his actions, but you are eating up his excuse nonetheless.

Obviously there is pressure on men to be good lovers, everyone feels that, and feeling desirable is a huge part of sexuality, and it being expressed within part of masculinity is not a bad thing. Not feeling desired is a huge blow to confidence and self perception, that much is true. However, that is internal and related to insecurities, not pressure from society; thus, portraying op as a victim of society's expectations of men felt frustrating to others.

Your english is fine, don't play dumb please. I do not fundamentally disagree with your point of view, I am only highlighting the nuance and why your first comment was not well received. And although a bit rude you did not say anything specifically sexist when you point out how masculinity feels and the pressure men feel to be good partners. You did, however, intentionally mischaracterize my talking points, and then attempt to invalidate my perspective.

Stop it with that sarcastic tone. Your mockery is counter productive to intellectual honesty.

Thank you

Gatorade should be thicker.

Men find these made up expectations from other men who don't know what they are talking about. Being self concious about your sexual performance is natural and ok, but those expectations aren't coming from us, and that line of thought from op is nothing but coping for selfish behavior.

If I had an inexperienced guy, as long as he was around my age and not too young or much older, it would be unlikely to bother me unless he made it an issue by drawing attention to it. From my perspective that is not a problem, if anything it is exciting to get a chance to blow someone's mind. I don't expect to get off the first time I am with a new partner anyway, that takes patience and being a lot more comfortable.

You are using sarcasm, but the words are true. That is some hentai plot level trash logic. You need to be a douche to think cheating on your partner is somehow for their own well-being.

There is a bit of embarrassment that you can feel if you are unexperienced, yeah, but there are no expectations. Even then, if you were worried about some type of ed you would buy a blue pill not cheat on your partner. I am sorry but there is no excusing anything op said, and him not getting away with it is no reason to justify his selfish and moronic logic.

Definitely awful that he has an illness from it, no one deserves life long punishment for being a douche while young and stupid, but there is no defending his behavior. It was not anyone's expectations that pushed him this way, only himself.

You said this says a lot about the expectations we have on men.

It does not, expectations on men are pretty damn low and OP is a douche for even trying to justify cheating.

Nah it isn't a sensitive topic, your take is just bad.

There are fuck all expectations on men, just respecting consent and washing your body puts you above a large part of men looking to date. This guy cheated and tries to convince others it was for a selfless reason, this is not an issue of expectations.

Oh no let's not go there, if you read into music definitions you will see only debate.

Yup, she was a dumb kid; he is a predator.

It is ok to let go of things that aren't good for you.

Don't quit on living, obviously, but sometimes we put ourselves through hell for things that we don't really want.

Well I was wrong about santa this is awful advice!

That is hurtful and manipulative of her. You need to let her know how it is making you feel and leave if it doesn't stop. I am so sorry

Bit holesome not gonna lie