Wooo 🥳 glad to have you join, I’m sure if you enjoyed this post you’ll love what’s to come

Definitely feel free to reply to the issues with any thoughts or commentary, I love discussions about these things!

Again, thanks for the kind words :) and good luck

I’m glad this post resonated with you! And I really appreciate the kind words 🙏

That’s a good point—the absence of self could definitely lead us to fill the void with characteristics we admire regardless of if they exist or not

Thanks for sharing that 🙌

That’s really well said!

You not giving two licks of a lolipop reminded me of a quote that goes something like this:

"When you’re 20, you care what everyone thinks. When you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks. When you’re 60, you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place."

It’s interesting to think of it like a pendulum. I wonder if it’s better to be in the middle or the extreme end of not caring

Thanks for sharing this 🙌

I hope it resonated with you! Appreciate you letting me know 😄

I feel like in some environments it feels necessary to masquerade a little bit. Like in the workplace when you’re trying to build your income you want to be perceived as valuable as possible.

But I feel like overall masquerading is harmful because we could get so caught up in seeking validation from others we don't focus on satisfying ourselves.

Haha still lots of time 😄 marathon not a sprint!

Glad it resonated with you 😁 Appreciate it!

Memento mori can definitely make us uneasy on the surface, but is powerful when truly understood

Thanks for sharing that! I like the sentiment of a good life meaning different things to different people

The part that sticks out to me the most is the concept of “being worthy of old age”

I guess it can mean a lot of things to different people

I think i’ll be worthy of old age if I haven’t been tainted with negativity by the time I get there—if I still have a positive spirit, can have fun and be creative

Happy to hear that 🙌😊

Also glad the post resonated with you!

Such a great passage! 😁

Without the right guidance early on it’s so easy to fall on that track of comfort seeking

I imagine some will eventually take a look around and wonder how they got there

Thanks for sharing! 🙏

That definitely makes sense! A large gap between childhood expectations and elderly reality can cause that feeling

I appreciate the response! And that definitely makes sense. I can see how the dissonance between old memories, beliefs, and values and new ones could cause us to wonder what our true self is

Thanks for that 🙌

I’m glad it resonated with you! 😄

If you don’t mind me asking, being in your 40s, what are one of those things that’s a focus for you?

Just curious about if your perspective is different now on certain areas than it was 10 years ago. Like maybe family and friends means a lot more!

LOL 😅

With the passage of time life can turn the simplest things into a miracle—like a walk in the park, a good nights sleep, or watching a movie.

Personal finance is definitely a subject where the advice we receive is shakey, all over the place, and could have large impact on our lives in a short time

High up on the list of advice to take with a grain of salt and do your own investigation

That’s a great point! I can definitely see how a lot of advice quickly ages

Economics is a perfect example. I’m also thinking about how in past decades there was an attitude of “toughen up”, but nowadays people are more encouraging of you not masking how you feel and actually addressing it

Thanks for sharing 🙌

I think that's a good mindset to have. I definitely try to do that often—build off of the advice-givers mistakes

Thanks for explaining!! I agree 100% with both points

Accumulating valuable knowledge isn’t the goal, it needs to be applied. And platitudes, listicles, cheap self-help content etc. are often empty and invaluable

What makes you feel that way? Do you feel the same way about books?

I have the opinion of taking advantage of knowledge that exists so I don’t have to figure everything out for myself

I think part of life is that every generation, or all youth on average, stands on the shoulders of the people who came before them

Wow this is great! I’m totally with you

Your first and last example in particular stand out to me because those are pieces of advice that sound undeniably safe, but still have a lot of nuance to them

It’s making me wonder if there is any piece of general advice that can be blindly followed.

Thanks for sharing this! 🙌

Definitely a point i’m with you on!

I don’t think we should carry the pressure of constantly having to be productive