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new_Australis OP t1_j81l6hy wrote

Thank you for your words. I spoke with my son today during our car ride when he said oh my gosh and I told him his teacher doesn't like it when he says that. He told me home is ok school is not. So he understands but has a slip up every now and then. If the teacher is still being rude to him I will schedule a meeting with her

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new_Australis OP t1_j80p2cb wrote

Thanks for your opinion.

We did have a chat with him.

We told him these are harmless words. It is our opinion that words hold as much power as you give them.

We told him they are not bad words but that the teacher doesn't like them and so he should avoid them.

He said ok however he is a child and often forgets.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80oewz wrote

>Play a game at home: dole out 4 quarters to everyone. every time some one says it at home they have to put a quarter in the jar. Last one with a quarter gets the pot

Good idea. I will see what works with him.

>Why should you have to stop saying it at home? You shouldn’t

I agree but I also want him to have a good experience in school.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80fjg1 wrote

Thank you for your words. We will work with him on not saying that phrase as it may hurt other kids feelings and the teacher's feelings as well. Maybe he will be more sympathetic to this reasoning. He often says oh my gosh as a replacement since his teacher told him to say that instead. So it's not so much the phrase oh my god more so the word god that is the issue with the teacher. As she has told him to say oh my goodness or oh my gosh as a substitute.

We will try to tell him to say oh man, or oh wow as a substitute.

I can say it's my fault as I often say oh my god, well.. "OH MY GA" is the actual phrase I use at home mainly when talking to my mother as it's her favorite phrase. So my guess is that our son hears me and as kid do they mimic their parents.

I will work on not using this phrase around him.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80eoiv wrote

>He might be a bit too young to understand the distinction between bad words and words that aren't appropriate in certain settings

Yes. We have told him which words are vulgar, shit fuck, bitch etc, not told him directly but he hears it on the tv, movies, in the street and he asks about it and we tell him we do not use those words. We just never got around telling him the word god would be an issue. Mainly because I never thought it would be.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80edi3 wrote

>I believe going over the teachers head from the get-go would exascerbate things, and worsen your kids relationship with their teacher.

This is true

>I'd request a meeting with the teacher to discuss things, and see if they can't be reasonable.

If it happens one more time I will choose this option. Thank you for your advice.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80cug6 wrote

>Have you tried asking the teacher (respectfully) to try removing the stick from their ass?

I have not, I am debating whether to do this or not. Since we fear the teacher will hold it against our son.

>It's perfectly acceptable to say oh my god in a public school.

I agree

>Your teacher giving your kid shit for it is what we call, forcing their religion on your child, and is not acceptable.

I agree, this is how I feel. She is forcing her beliefs onto him. Something we don't do as our atheist beliefs are our own and if he chooses religion in the future that will be his option.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80c63e wrote

>Letting him say it at home is a mistake

I agree with this statement however it is our belief that those are not bad words that being said we have to teach him where and when he can say certain things.

>Teachers talk and pass their biases all the way up.

This is his mother's fear. That the teacher will hold a grudge against him and give him a hard time all around.

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