Don’t lean into the examples you used? Why? They’re only valid when it serves your viewpoint? Will you then choose another example that isn’t a tragedy of life like a lion eating you. So we don’t get trapped in fantasy.

And then I’ll ask you: Did anyone that suffered from that difficulty ever moved passed it, or built a positive life afterward?

Do you agree with this? - Despite a tragic event in life you can aim at and do positive things, things a friend would recommend you to do. But sometimes people choose another path, a path that instead of promoting their potential diminishes it. (drugs/alcoholism/or any other harmful action).

This is what I mean, a constructive path that leads to well-being vs a path that takes you further from it.

This is the point I am trying to make. I’m not saying that a fatality can’t destroy a life.

Don’t worry I don’t take your words the wrong way. I do appreciate you sharing what you know.

Also, I’m not young or inexperienced.

We’re talking about the lives of other people that may or not overcome a particular difficulty. And I do agree with you that there are situations that are beyond us and can eat us whole (a lion for example).

I’d point you to the two examples you gave (human trafficking, rape victims) fortunately I don’t know anyone who suffered from the first, but I do know someone who suffered from the latter. Don’t you know people that were able to move beyond great difficulties?

And if some people overcame such difficulties why would we say to someone else that they can’t?

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What’s your point? Something very bad happens, and you don’t ever get to do anything to overcome it? Maybe, but these sound like extreme situations. In most situations, people can act to improve their lives and should be encouraged to do so. (Just in case you missed it, that’s what I’m doing.)

Yes, some people find themselves in very difficult situations. In my view, that doesn’t change the approach. You still need to identify small steps you can take. These steps need to be guided by what you consider an improvement/positive/well-being. You still need to keep growing to attain more of the thing you want in life (even if some are out of reach, not all are). And your mindset is what makes you react to the world positively.

My grandfather became a widower in his 50’s. He remarried at 63 and had time to have two children and see two grandchildren which he always wanted (first wife couldn’t have children).

There are moments of pain and grief, but keeping the things you want as the goal (even if you can’t manage all) is essential if you intend to pursue a life you care for. This doesn’t mean that we’re always well, sometimes we are pretty unwell.

Please understand that I intend this as encouragement, not as a denial of great difficulties in life.

I wish you the best.

Thank you!